Do what you like, like what you do

Most of us are not doing what we like. So, we have to like what we do.

Honestly, how many of you are really doing things that you like. And do you really like all the things you are doing?

In our lives, it is not that we cannot do what we like, sometimes we are caught in the unforeseen circumstances, sometimes we are unwilling to take the extra mile, sometimes we are just afraid of the unknown risk.

We are taught since young, to becareful in things we do. Careful of what? Careful of risk, careful of the unknown, careful of danger. This somehow may be misinterpreted as by staying within the comfort zone.

As we grow older, we are taught of getting out of comfort zone, no pain no gain, higher risk higher return. 

Now, isn't it contradicting?

So, end up sometimes we have to like what we are doing, in order not to get frustrated in the things we are doing. Hoping to stay sane. 

Of course, not all things are loveable - like messy rooms, dirty laundry, pest infested washroom, crying baby. Those are things which are the parts amd parcels of life that we need to go through, which we may not like but can come to like. 

Therefore, having to say to like what you do, is not just as a comforting word. It's just part of reality. 

All the best to everyone. For those who are doing what you like, good for you. While for those who are not, do like what you are doing and enjoy life as it goes by. 

Familia

I have been trying to google the word "family" , and this is the meaning I've found, "a group of one or more parents and their children living together as a unit" . Well, there's still another meaning that goes this way, "all the descendants of a common ancestor". I find these meanings ain't truly describe the word.

While on the other hand, Wikipedia gives a much more thorough explanation. "In human society, family is a group of people related either by consanguinity (by recognized birth) or affinity (by marriage or other relationship)". Now this sounds much better, or rather more relatable to the word.

Opps, there goes the days where we have to lookup words using hardcopy of dictionary at home or library, where we have to flip through the pages and find by alphabetical order then scan through the page to find the word we need.

Anyway, nowadays we are living in a smaller unit of family compared to the years of our ancestors, where family will only grow bigger when the children get married and even bigger when the children have their own children. Of course, this varies depending where we were.

Who would have guess, that the current modern style family have kids that stayed separately from their parents, irregardless they are married or not. This of course with various reason - education, work, married life, independence - you name it.

No matter you are far or near with your family, how the relationship with your family matters the most. What's the point of having family under the same roof when everyone having sore face. What's the point of calling each other family when you don't even acknowledge the other party.

I guess everyone has a different set of values that he or she held in regard for family. But I truly think, being in a family means there's affinity between the family members. Be it the affinity is good or bad. As I also hold this deeply, what doesn't breaks you, makes you stronger as God only put obstacle that you can cross, but ultimately it's still up to you whether you want to cross it or not. 

Living life by itself ain't easy. For most of us, family is an extra support for us in this life. Though, for some that do not have family or those that really have mean family, I guess it may be a reminder to ourselves to be a better family to ourselves and others. 

Birthday

What do you think of birthday?

Or rather, what is the first thing that you thought of, when the word birthday crossed your mind?

A beautiful cake? A lavish present? A grand celebration? A getaway holiday? A day for pampering yourself?

Well, I guess at different group of age, our expectations towards birthday gradually change too.

A younger self of us may look forward to delicious food and parties with friends. 

A matured self of us may look forward to romantic and adventurous celebrations.

An older self of us may look forward to quiet and heart-warming day.

As far as I can recall, I would say I am quite blissful, as I always get to celebrate my birthday. Had I ever missed one, guess I must have subconsciously ignore that uneventful day. And while being happy or not celebrating the birthdays, well, that's another story.

May you get to celebrate your birthday(s) - be it a big celebration or a small and quiet one, it's alright. It's a day to be remembered, the day you see the light of the day (or night), the day you safely set footprint on the earth, the day that belongs to you.

Happy birthday!!