friends are chosen family

Friends are chosen family - not my own quote, but I just grab it from one of the Chinese dramas I've seen. And I truly agree with it. There's a saying, birds of a feather flock together. And these two quotes are just so matching.

We usually just hang out with people of same interest or same thinking or even same goal. And those will finally become close circle of friends after enduring through the time trials. Within these close friends, there will be a few that we've considered them just like family.

But family, real family, is the one we don't get to choose. However, this family is the one that we can grow up with, learn together and to become better together. Sticking through good and bad, that's family. Since we can't choose, then we make each other a better person. 

Though there're exceptional cases, but in general, that's what a family should do. Hold on to each other, encourage each other, don't give up on each other. Reprimand if it's wrong, don't  indulge if not right.

Hoping for a better generation.

life-cycle

Is life merely a cycle, or is it something that we can breakthrough it. If it's a cycle, is it something predetermined? But believing it to be predetermined, would make us feel like to surrender - it makes us feel powerless, it makes us feel useless to be striving so hard everyday to become better, and it makes everything seems worthless.

So, what is this cycle about? It started when we are born, when we "join" in the world, and the only option to "leave" the cycle, is after our death. There's no guideline about it.

Life is so much simpler in olden days, less worry, less comparison, less knowledge, less stress. And with the world getting "bigger" now, not that it physically get bigger, just that with the accessibilities that we have now, we literally connected with the whole wide world, we get too much information whether we need to them or not. 

Is that the reason to make us lost focus on what we really need to do with our own life? We are all so lost in others' lives, that we spend more time tracking on others, rather than our own. We try following what others are doing, thinking it would make our lives different, too. 

If life is a cycle, would all cycles be the same, or is it an individual cycle after all? And is it the same cycle that we need to complete by ourselves? It's irony, when everyone seems to be "learning" from everyone, which now seems to make each individual cycle to  become one big cycle.

It seems to be a big question. Let's ponder for a moment.

change

Had a week long with people across different countries. Started with a vague idea and stress of how the week going to end, but ended with a light heart and some light towards end of the tunnel.

A week where we had to show our weaknesses yet protect our standpoint. A week of alignment and establishing a line that works for all. Not easy, yet not really hard, if all trashed out well.

Everyone may learned something different, but hope we all learnt that difference doesn't means indifferent. 

So, what have I learnt? 

I learnt that we don't have to be afraid of changes. It's not easy to change as we have been in comfort zone, or maybe we have been in delusion, for a long time. But without change, we definitely won't be aware of what we might gain (or lose). 

Human relationship is a complex thing. Comparing to talking on the blank screen with someone vs talking face to face and watching each other expression, is really different. Human touch. Work somehow move faster, surprisingly.

Let's hope that there'll be continuous improvements, where everyone's live will get easier after this.