Time really flies sometimes, whether you are aware or not. Or was it when you are particular busy, then Time plays a trick on you?
It was roughly started in March, when we first decided to have our wedding in October. It is amazing how things just simply take shape in just a short six months period of time. It is true when they said, by doing things bit by bit at a time, things will be done before you realized it.
We weren't really in rushing mode getting our things done, except for one, which is the booking of wedding meal venue. Expectedly, good places with good timing were running out fast, therefore fast action was needed here. Apart from that, I need, most of the time, both of us are taking our time to get things done.
Less than one month to go now. Though there are still things to be done, but I can feel that things are slowing falling into places. Things are not always smooth sailing, but if you believe things are going to be good, they will, in turn, be great!
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Sunday, September 25, 2011
hope is a dream that never sleeps
Hope is a dream that never sleeps .. That's a song title that I'm listening right now. With hope, can we really pursue our dream till the end?
Life is really full of ups and downs, right? I'm now in one of its roller coaster rides. Sometimes the speed is so slow where you tend to take things for granted, but sometimes when the speed pick up, you can hardly knew what's going on. Sometimes you are rushing from the bottom to the top, yet sometimes you are being send from top to bottom in a blink of an eye. There are also times when you feel like you are just going round and round in circles when no ending point.
But, there's a phrase that is really true - you harvest what you planted. Things happened today are because of what you've planned yesterday. You can't keep on procrastinating. Things have to start off somewhere or somehow. You have to preserve till the end in things you have started. Only then you'll be able to see the outcome of it. And no matter what the result may be, it is definately good because you made an effort for it and never given up along the way. Only with thing that is hard to come by, you're able to appreciate more of it.
No wonder they said living ain't easy, but if you get to live thru it, you'll definately love it.
Life is really full of ups and downs, right? I'm now in one of its roller coaster rides. Sometimes the speed is so slow where you tend to take things for granted, but sometimes when the speed pick up, you can hardly knew what's going on. Sometimes you are rushing from the bottom to the top, yet sometimes you are being send from top to bottom in a blink of an eye. There are also times when you feel like you are just going round and round in circles when no ending point.
But, there's a phrase that is really true - you harvest what you planted. Things happened today are because of what you've planned yesterday. You can't keep on procrastinating. Things have to start off somewhere or somehow. You have to preserve till the end in things you have started. Only then you'll be able to see the outcome of it. And no matter what the result may be, it is definately good because you made an effort for it and never given up along the way. Only with thing that is hard to come by, you're able to appreciate more of it.
No wonder they said living ain't easy, but if you get to live thru it, you'll definately love it.
Friday, September 16, 2011
environmental pressure
Starting out in a new environment, does give us environmental pressure, doesn't it? Or so that I'ld prefer to call it.
It is common that when we are in a family, we might get siblings pressure or parents pressure, as alike with among our friends, we get peer pressure. Though peer pressure is a much common word to be used, guess it is because we want to highlight certain bad influence from some. But it seems to me that all these can be categorized as environmental pressure.
Things are always happening around us, or had happened prior to us having need to deal with it. Therefore, there are always people trying to tell us, or rather, influence us in handling things in their own way. In a good way, this is to avoid the similar mistake to be done, or to reduce any inefficiency. However, on the other hand, that make us not having the first hand experience on how to deal with that particular situation. This is something every subjective though.
Apart from all those external environmental pressure, we still need to face our inner thoughts. Though most of the time, the inner self is just having war between itself and the external self, which is dealing with the environmental. The inner self would be just thinking from own perspective.
In life there will be a few times or more, where huge changes in life are unavoidable. One, when one step into the college or university life. Two, when one step into working life and lastly, when one step into family life. These are part of our stages in life, too.
When others share their experience with us, it is mostly for our own benefits. To let us know which turning is right, which is wrong, and which step to be taken is faster or better. However, the point lies in, each and everyone of us is different. Things worked out for A, might not work out for B, and might have different result for C. Their intention might be good, but might not be tailor-made for you.
This is what I felt now, environmental pressure.
It has been one month now. One month plus six days to be exact, after stepping into the new environment. It was excited at first but as time goes on, things doesn't seems to be easy as I thought it would be. Every single day that passed seems to drain my energy away. If only sleep was well. Plus now, I'm facing family pressure, giving their negative thoughts about it.
After my first week there, I knew things aren't going to be easy. But I would just like to hang on there. I believe things happen for a reason (or maybe I'm just lazy to think of better way out) and had always truly believe that things will turn out well no matter what.
My thought is always to do well on tasks given to me, no matter what task it is. Even if I really can't do it well, I would still rather give a shot first and if it fails, that would be another story. There are also some out there that would rather create their own world and rule, then had people following them, which don't really seems wrong either.
However, now I am still struggling, from the sleepless night, the expectation held, and the pressure given. Why can't we think things in an optimistic way or encouranging way? Why do people always have to start off in a negative way? Sometimes, what we need is not an opinion, but rather just an encouraging word, to allow us to take the step we had always wanted to try to take.
p/s: do note that I'm not saying about bad habits or sinister doings that should be experienced with. Things that bring harm to others are totally forbidden and out of this context. I don't believe that by bringing harm to others will bring joy to ownself or own group of people. Everyone on the earth has its own living value.
It is common that when we are in a family, we might get siblings pressure or parents pressure, as alike with among our friends, we get peer pressure. Though peer pressure is a much common word to be used, guess it is because we want to highlight certain bad influence from some. But it seems to me that all these can be categorized as environmental pressure.
Things are always happening around us, or had happened prior to us having need to deal with it. Therefore, there are always people trying to tell us, or rather, influence us in handling things in their own way. In a good way, this is to avoid the similar mistake to be done, or to reduce any inefficiency. However, on the other hand, that make us not having the first hand experience on how to deal with that particular situation. This is something every subjective though.
Apart from all those external environmental pressure, we still need to face our inner thoughts. Though most of the time, the inner self is just having war between itself and the external self, which is dealing with the environmental. The inner self would be just thinking from own perspective.
In life there will be a few times or more, where huge changes in life are unavoidable. One, when one step into the college or university life. Two, when one step into working life and lastly, when one step into family life. These are part of our stages in life, too.
When others share their experience with us, it is mostly for our own benefits. To let us know which turning is right, which is wrong, and which step to be taken is faster or better. However, the point lies in, each and everyone of us is different. Things worked out for A, might not work out for B, and might have different result for C. Their intention might be good, but might not be tailor-made for you.
This is what I felt now, environmental pressure.
It has been one month now. One month plus six days to be exact, after stepping into the new environment. It was excited at first but as time goes on, things doesn't seems to be easy as I thought it would be. Every single day that passed seems to drain my energy away. If only sleep was well. Plus now, I'm facing family pressure, giving their negative thoughts about it.
After my first week there, I knew things aren't going to be easy. But I would just like to hang on there. I believe things happen for a reason (or maybe I'm just lazy to think of better way out) and had always truly believe that things will turn out well no matter what.
My thought is always to do well on tasks given to me, no matter what task it is. Even if I really can't do it well, I would still rather give a shot first and if it fails, that would be another story. There are also some out there that would rather create their own world and rule, then had people following them, which don't really seems wrong either.
However, now I am still struggling, from the sleepless night, the expectation held, and the pressure given. Why can't we think things in an optimistic way or encouranging way? Why do people always have to start off in a negative way? Sometimes, what we need is not an opinion, but rather just an encouraging word, to allow us to take the step we had always wanted to try to take.
p/s: do note that I'm not saying about bad habits or sinister doings that should be experienced with. Things that bring harm to others are totally forbidden and out of this context. I don't believe that by bringing harm to others will bring joy to ownself or own group of people. Everyone on the earth has its own living value.
Saturday, July 30, 2011
life like a marathon race
Life is like a marathon race.
Our life journey is just like a marathon race, where we are given a period of time limit and race route to complete. Along the race, stalls of refreshment are prepared for the runners, as if pit stops in life where we can take a breather amidst the rushing life.
Along the race, you may see some started eagerly while some may started off slowly. Some may picked up their speed along the way, some prefer to maintain their speed, while some seem to slow down.
Some just had their aim set at the finishing line and give full focus on it. Some had the mind of enjoying the scenery of the route without neglecting the race time limit while some may have lose track of time due to the wonderful scenery around them. There are also some who might have given up midway of the race and decided stop and wait for help to come along the way.
These are actually quite similar to what's happening in our life. We all started off our life with designated destiny. But what makes it different is how we decided to spend our lifetime.
Whether to run through it with full force and end up not knowing what's happening around us, or to give up in life when things are not going the way we wanted. Or instead, to enjoy our life but not forgetting the ultimate aim in life.
All these are options which we can choose and the choice is ours.
We may not have the same racing route and we may not have the same time limit.
We may not have the same running pace and we may not has the same stamina.
But we can give our best to reach out for our finishing line within our given time, while not forgetting to care about those around us that are running their race as well.
It is a great feeling when others boosted for you along the way. Do the same for others, too.
You may not know, a single word of encouragement may mean a world to others.
Our life journey is just like a marathon race, where we are given a period of time limit and race route to complete. Along the race, stalls of refreshment are prepared for the runners, as if pit stops in life where we can take a breather amidst the rushing life.
Along the race, you may see some started eagerly while some may started off slowly. Some may picked up their speed along the way, some prefer to maintain their speed, while some seem to slow down.
Some just had their aim set at the finishing line and give full focus on it. Some had the mind of enjoying the scenery of the route without neglecting the race time limit while some may have lose track of time due to the wonderful scenery around them. There are also some who might have given up midway of the race and decided stop and wait for help to come along the way.
These are actually quite similar to what's happening in our life. We all started off our life with designated destiny. But what makes it different is how we decided to spend our lifetime.
Whether to run through it with full force and end up not knowing what's happening around us, or to give up in life when things are not going the way we wanted. Or instead, to enjoy our life but not forgetting the ultimate aim in life.
All these are options which we can choose and the choice is ours.
We may not have the same racing route and we may not have the same time limit.
We may not have the same running pace and we may not has the same stamina.
But we can give our best to reach out for our finishing line within our given time, while not forgetting to care about those around us that are running their race as well.
It is a great feeling when others boosted for you along the way. Do the same for others, too.
You may not know, a single word of encouragement may mean a world to others.
Monday, July 4, 2011
second chance
Do you at times, wished that you were given a second chance? Another chance to make a better choice, or another chance to remedy the previous choice made.
You might not have noticed, but there are times, indeed, that you are actually being given another chance. Maybe not in a direct way, but in another form
or after a period of time, that this second chance was given. Fate may love to play a trick on us some times, but it does help us some times, too, by given
us a second chance. It might not be easy though, to recognize it at the very first glance.
So, if you were given a second chance, what and how would you do, to better appreciate the chance given?
You might not have noticed, but there are times, indeed, that you are actually being given another chance. Maybe not in a direct way, but in another form
or after a period of time, that this second chance was given. Fate may love to play a trick on us some times, but it does help us some times, too, by given
us a second chance. It might not be easy though, to recognize it at the very first glance.
So, if you were given a second chance, what and how would you do, to better appreciate the chance given?
back to reality
Four days of escaping from reality, far away from the usual hustle and bustle of life. But now, am back to the very same spot, before the escape gateway.
The days of not having to bother with the routine lifestyle or not having the need to think of the usual worries in life, were just great. It was as if living for the day. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift.
Having to step back out from reality, sometimes allow us to untangle our confusing mind. Mind that, at times, got too caught up in the rat race, that we failed to appreaciate what life really is about. And to be able to step back into reality after a breakaway, will allow us to reconsider our priorities in life.
Of course, not everything is good or as smooth as what we thought ought to be. But at least with the right thinking and the right mindset, somehow or someway, things are going to work out anyway. We need to have this kind of optimization spirit in life!
- 29 Jun
The days of not having to bother with the routine lifestyle or not having the need to think of the usual worries in life, were just great. It was as if living for the day. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift.
Having to step back out from reality, sometimes allow us to untangle our confusing mind. Mind that, at times, got too caught up in the rat race, that we failed to appreaciate what life really is about. And to be able to step back into reality after a breakaway, will allow us to reconsider our priorities in life.
Of course, not everything is good or as smooth as what we thought ought to be. But at least with the right thinking and the right mindset, somehow or someway, things are going to work out anyway. We need to have this kind of optimization spirit in life!
- 29 Jun
Sunday, June 12, 2011
after dinner talk
Had a long after-dinner-chat today. It is actually quite a norm thing to do, but today it's with a special group of people.
It's actually the first time I had dinner with teacher, of course, with KN and LC together. However, it's not a foursome dinner. It's kind of having dinner with her family and relatives together. And what's so different bout the dinner is that you don't feel out of place, even though it's like practically eating with strangers. Or it's just fun sometimes to eat with elders, while listening to their chit chat and stories.
Well, the after dinner chat, of course, falls within the four of us and her son. Surprisingly, many topics were touched on, broad range of it. It's really nice to hear what people had to share, as we can't really experience everything in life as an individual alone. It's through all these sharings that we can learn a trick or two in life.
Five wishes
It was told to the 5 person, that whoever make the best wish, will get the prize. So, the first person said, "I want sweet". The second person, thinking to make a better wish said, "I want a sweet factory". The third person not wanted to be out-beaten said, "I want a sweet factory and an ice-cream factory". The fourth person, cracking his head, said, "I want a sweet factory, an ice-cream factory and 3 wishes", with that, he can make endless of wishes.
As for the fifth person, what do you his wish is?
He wished, "I do not want any wish."
It's because, without any wish, he won't need to keep attaining the wish. It's as if you will never feel contended with what you have and keep on wishing.
In my point of view, or rather my interpretation to this is, sometimes, when we wanted something, is it really that we want it because it does bring values to our lives. Or we want it simply because others have it and we just want to seem to be better than them?
Four types of people
Fox - type of people that loves fun and new things, and loves to seek new challenges
Beaver - type of people that are family bounded, and need to have security in life
Owl - type of people that seek in-depth knowledge and wants to know more in details
Dolphin - type of people that have go-green and charity nature
It'll be easier to tackle or to click with people, knowing what type of group they belong to.
Coincidentally, I found a site that does touch a bit on these 4 types of group - http://www.onlineorganizing.com/NewslettersArticle.asp?article=80&newsletter=go
Work - our current culture teaches us not to question the decision made by the elders. Thus, in work, the same thing applies, and we have not thought of challenging what's right in our sense. However, we need to also have the right attitude.
Monetary value - am I rich? monetary value is different from one or another, as everyone has different financial needs in life. But, to be able to not cling too much on the monetary surface value, somehow, in time of needs, they will flow in, in a way or another.
Religion - to have a religion, sometimes, it helps to shape up a person's point of view of what is right or wrong. Of course, we are not saying about the extremist. But religion does somehow provides a guide and as a support.
Family - staying with family throughout your life or having a chance to stay away from your family, somehow does have a bit of impact to your way of thinking and reliability towards the family.
Relationship - most of the times, it's opposite attracts. It may sound corny, but it's true, although it might not applies to all. To maintain a healthy relationship, you'll need to love yourself. To love yourself then only love others, this way you won't feel you are the giving end, instead, you'll feel like sharing your love to others.
It's actually the first time I had dinner with teacher, of course, with KN and LC together. However, it's not a foursome dinner. It's kind of having dinner with her family and relatives together. And what's so different bout the dinner is that you don't feel out of place, even though it's like practically eating with strangers. Or it's just fun sometimes to eat with elders, while listening to their chit chat and stories.
Well, the after dinner chat, of course, falls within the four of us and her son. Surprisingly, many topics were touched on, broad range of it. It's really nice to hear what people had to share, as we can't really experience everything in life as an individual alone. It's through all these sharings that we can learn a trick or two in life.
Five wishes
It was told to the 5 person, that whoever make the best wish, will get the prize. So, the first person said, "I want sweet". The second person, thinking to make a better wish said, "I want a sweet factory". The third person not wanted to be out-beaten said, "I want a sweet factory and an ice-cream factory". The fourth person, cracking his head, said, "I want a sweet factory, an ice-cream factory and 3 wishes", with that, he can make endless of wishes.
As for the fifth person, what do you his wish is?
He wished, "I do not want any wish."
It's because, without any wish, he won't need to keep attaining the wish. It's as if you will never feel contended with what you have and keep on wishing.
In my point of view, or rather my interpretation to this is, sometimes, when we wanted something, is it really that we want it because it does bring values to our lives. Or we want it simply because others have it and we just want to seem to be better than them?
Four types of people
Fox - type of people that loves fun and new things, and loves to seek new challenges
Beaver - type of people that are family bounded, and need to have security in life
Owl - type of people that seek in-depth knowledge and wants to know more in details
Dolphin - type of people that have go-green and charity nature
It'll be easier to tackle or to click with people, knowing what type of group they belong to.
Coincidentally, I found a site that does touch a bit on these 4 types of group - http://www.onlineorganizing.com/NewslettersArticle.asp?article=80&newsletter=go
Work - our current culture teaches us not to question the decision made by the elders. Thus, in work, the same thing applies, and we have not thought of challenging what's right in our sense. However, we need to also have the right attitude.
Monetary value - am I rich? monetary value is different from one or another, as everyone has different financial needs in life. But, to be able to not cling too much on the monetary surface value, somehow, in time of needs, they will flow in, in a way or another.
Religion - to have a religion, sometimes, it helps to shape up a person's point of view of what is right or wrong. Of course, we are not saying about the extremist. But religion does somehow provides a guide and as a support.
Family - staying with family throughout your life or having a chance to stay away from your family, somehow does have a bit of impact to your way of thinking and reliability towards the family.
Relationship - most of the times, it's opposite attracts. It may sound corny, but it's true, although it might not applies to all. To maintain a healthy relationship, you'll need to love yourself. To love yourself then only love others, this way you won't feel you are the giving end, instead, you'll feel like sharing your love to others.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
stepping into june
So fast and we are stepping into the month of June now.
And I must admit that a lot of things are happening this year, a lot of unplanned things. Some are not that good though.
Suddenly, I feel kinda nervous. Feeling unease.
There are still a lot of things to be done this year. Things that were planned out along the way. Hope that they can be completed without any hitch. Well, things happened unexpectedly but at least, hope it won't be any major hitch.
And I must admit that a lot of things are happening this year, a lot of unplanned things. Some are not that good though.
Suddenly, I feel kinda nervous. Feeling unease.
There are still a lot of things to be done this year. Things that were planned out along the way. Hope that they can be completed without any hitch. Well, things happened unexpectedly but at least, hope it won't be any major hitch.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
one-minute: simply
Came across one of the prompts in the 'The One-Minute Writer' blog - Simply.
Though not many reply to this post, but I simply just love the 7 comments posted (to-date).
It is just amazing to hear, what people think of their lives.
The post was to ask you to complete the sentence - "My life is simply ________."
Do search for the blog and read them!
It is fascinating to see how others looked upon their life.
What do you think about your life?
How would you complete the sentence?
Or rather, how would you want to complete your life?
You have a choice here.
Though not many reply to this post, but I simply just love the 7 comments posted (to-date).
It is just amazing to hear, what people think of their lives.
The post was to ask you to complete the sentence - "My life is simply ________."
Do search for the blog and read them!
It is fascinating to see how others looked upon their life.
What do you think about your life?
How would you complete the sentence?
Or rather, how would you want to complete your life?
You have a choice here.
procrastinating
I feel so bad. I'm procrastinating on what I'm supposed to complete today.First half of the day has gone by, and another half to go.
Taking a short break now and feel like writing. So, here am I.
This is a tough month for me.
One of the tough months this year. This year is really one of my "turning point" year. In our life, there are many turning points. You may not realised that, but there are turning points, now and then, around the corner. Some may not impact muct, but some might just changed the way of your life.
I had not realised that there are so many things happening this year, until people started pointing them out. Things just came along, and I just took them in, without realising that they piling up, higher and higher. So, now and then, procrastinating seems to be a wonderful thing to do.
To just take a break away from all the stuff, and just live for the day.
Well, I bet everyone is having their own portion of stuff (I wouldn't want to say problem or trouble) on their own plate. Some might find it easy to handle some stuff, while some are stressing out on how to settle theirs. Easy to say, that things will just turn out right in the end. We can't just sit and wait for things to turn out right, can we? But worrying too much, doesn't seem to help either.
So, just take one thing at a time, one step at a time.
And, don't worry too much, things will just turn out right! :)
p/s: I always think that writing is one good way of releasing stress. Hope it works for some, too!
Taking a short break now and feel like writing. So, here am I.
This is a tough month for me.
One of the tough months this year. This year is really one of my "turning point" year. In our life, there are many turning points. You may not realised that, but there are turning points, now and then, around the corner. Some may not impact muct, but some might just changed the way of your life.
I had not realised that there are so many things happening this year, until people started pointing them out. Things just came along, and I just took them in, without realising that they piling up, higher and higher. So, now and then, procrastinating seems to be a wonderful thing to do.
To just take a break away from all the stuff, and just live for the day.
Well, I bet everyone is having their own portion of stuff (I wouldn't want to say problem or trouble) on their own plate. Some might find it easy to handle some stuff, while some are stressing out on how to settle theirs. Easy to say, that things will just turn out right in the end. We can't just sit and wait for things to turn out right, can we? But worrying too much, doesn't seem to help either.
So, just take one thing at a time, one step at a time.
And, don't worry too much, things will just turn out right! :)
p/s: I always think that writing is one good way of releasing stress. Hope it works for some, too!
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
the game has begun
I really like the description of break shot being used on life. Here I am again, trying to link to the drama - Dream High. Allow me to quote from the drama.
== quote ==
Do you know what a break shot is?
It's the first shot you take, to break the rack of balls in a billiards game.
It's the shot that begins every game. You can hit the game at the same angle with the same force, but it'll always break the rack in a different way.
That's how it is with life and important changes. Like break shots, changes can come to us at nowhere, and they completely disrupt our otherwise normal life.
And most teenagers find themselves helpless in the face of those changes.
If I can go back to those days again, I'd like to say this to those teenagers. "The game's begun, don't be scared. Enjoy the game."
== unquote ==
Changes in life come to us at every stages of our life.
Somehow, there is as if a turning point at various stages of our life.
It is only which key had we found, which door had we opened, and which turn had we taken.
It is never too late to take another turn, to open another door, to use another key.
As long as we wanted to, late is better than never at all.
The game begun the very minute our life came upon on earth. But how the game proceed towards the end, lies on how we play the game.
Although we cannot decide the length of our game but we can definately decide the flow of our game.
== quote ==
Do you know what a break shot is?
It's the first shot you take, to break the rack of balls in a billiards game.
It's the shot that begins every game. You can hit the game at the same angle with the same force, but it'll always break the rack in a different way.
That's how it is with life and important changes. Like break shots, changes can come to us at nowhere, and they completely disrupt our otherwise normal life.
And most teenagers find themselves helpless in the face of those changes.
If I can go back to those days again, I'd like to say this to those teenagers. "The game's begun, don't be scared. Enjoy the game."
== unquote ==
Changes in life come to us at every stages of our life.
Somehow, there is as if a turning point at various stages of our life.
It is only which key had we found, which door had we opened, and which turn had we taken.
It is never too late to take another turn, to open another door, to use another key.
As long as we wanted to, late is better than never at all.
The game begun the very minute our life came upon on earth. But how the game proceed towards the end, lies on how we play the game.
Although we cannot decide the length of our game but we can definately decide the flow of our game.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
fairy godmother
Sometimes, it is fun reading fairy tales, where there seem to be endless of fairy godmothers that always come in hand in the time of needs. Where is our fairy godmother in real life?
If fairy godmother is real, I wonder how would it looks like in this modern era. Would he or she (presumable that guy can be fair god-mother, opps, -father) looks like our next-door-neighbour?
How many would we meet in our lifetime? One, two, or as many as we need?
I wonder ... I wonder ..
If fairy godmother is real, I wonder how would it looks like in this modern era. Would he or she (presumable that guy can be fair god-mother, opps, -father) looks like our next-door-neighbour?
How many would we meet in our lifetime? One, two, or as many as we need?
I wonder ... I wonder ..
Monday, May 2, 2011
ROM ... checked
Finally, one thing done. My ROM is over!
It was less tension then I thought it might be.
Things were considered going by the flow, though there are minor hiccups now and then.
Coming up next would be things to be ready for the Actual Day.
Funnily enough, there still seem to be a lot of things yet to be done, but on the other hand, doesn't seem so.
I wonder if the list of things that we keep track, are good enough.
I think, not having to stretch the planning over a period of one whole year is good for me. But, I know that there are some who would prefer a one-year-ahead-planning. Some would be thinking from the financial aspect, some would think from the mentally preparation, etc, etc.
However, the most important thing is the couple who is going through the whole deal. The participation from both parties are really important, and you could actually learn more about your other half if you have not done so.
Looking foward to the days nearing the Actual Day.
It was less tension then I thought it might be.
Things were considered going by the flow, though there are minor hiccups now and then.
Coming up next would be things to be ready for the Actual Day.
Funnily enough, there still seem to be a lot of things yet to be done, but on the other hand, doesn't seem so.
I wonder if the list of things that we keep track, are good enough.
I think, not having to stretch the planning over a period of one whole year is good for me. But, I know that there are some who would prefer a one-year-ahead-planning. Some would be thinking from the financial aspect, some would think from the mentally preparation, etc, etc.
However, the most important thing is the couple who is going through the whole deal. The participation from both parties are really important, and you could actually learn more about your other half if you have not done so.
Looking foward to the days nearing the Actual Day.
moving on
Moving on, step by step, everyday.
No matter how reluctant you may be, you still have to move on, towards another new step, another new beginning.
There are that people being bugged by previous unsuccessful relationships, or people that are having hard time accepting their health status, or even people that have to move out of their comfort zone to be in a new environment. All these are inevitable. Everyone of us will get to face these or something similar, that is prompting us to move on.
Some may be happily accepting the change, some may be doubting if the change is good. One way or another, there bound to be a reason that you have to face it. It is either face it or turn away from it. But, how long can you avoid change? One way or another, change will come to seek for you.
Therefore, why not try to accept it and move on?
Maybe with a little acceptance, a little planning, a little patience, moving on might be a wise choice than to turn around at the same spot over and over again.
Move on, my friends. May the change not only brings you better view of yourself, your life but also brings you more courage to pursue your dreams, your life.
No matter how reluctant you may be, you still have to move on, towards another new step, another new beginning.
There are that people being bugged by previous unsuccessful relationships, or people that are having hard time accepting their health status, or even people that have to move out of their comfort zone to be in a new environment. All these are inevitable. Everyone of us will get to face these or something similar, that is prompting us to move on.
Some may be happily accepting the change, some may be doubting if the change is good. One way or another, there bound to be a reason that you have to face it. It is either face it or turn away from it. But, how long can you avoid change? One way or another, change will come to seek for you.
Therefore, why not try to accept it and move on?
Maybe with a little acceptance, a little planning, a little patience, moving on might be a wise choice than to turn around at the same spot over and over again.
Move on, my friends. May the change not only brings you better view of yourself, your life but also brings you more courage to pursue your dreams, your life.
Saturday, April 9, 2011
change
Life is full of changes, isn't it?
Or do you feel that you life seems to be monotonous all along? Is it that you have not been noticing the change? Or you are just reluctant to accept the change around you?
Nothing is this world remains the same. Look back, not to say 10 years ago, but simply just 1 year ago, there have been changes going around, if not you yourself. Environment, relationships, thinking, behaviour - all these is being shaped up all the time - non-stop. It is just towards better or worse, that's all.
Change is scary, in fact. Change is going out from your comfort zone, towards another unfamiliar territory, a place where you need to start all over again. Sounds a bit exaggerating, though. But, this is it, isn't it?
But change is what that is necessary in order to reach out to another level, to break out and to have a better you. However, one thing that need to be reminded - moderation. Whatever, we do, we need to remember to do in moderate, in balance.
Or do you feel that you life seems to be monotonous all along? Is it that you have not been noticing the change? Or you are just reluctant to accept the change around you?
Nothing is this world remains the same. Look back, not to say 10 years ago, but simply just 1 year ago, there have been changes going around, if not you yourself. Environment, relationships, thinking, behaviour - all these is being shaped up all the time - non-stop. It is just towards better or worse, that's all.
Change is scary, in fact. Change is going out from your comfort zone, towards another unfamiliar territory, a place where you need to start all over again. Sounds a bit exaggerating, though. But, this is it, isn't it?
But change is what that is necessary in order to reach out to another level, to break out and to have a better you. However, one thing that need to be reminded - moderation. Whatever, we do, we need to remember to do in moderate, in balance.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
atttitude (2)
I am recently watching this drama - Dream High.
This drama is focusing on 6 students who went into the renowned Kirin High Arts School, well-known for producing top class artists in the country. Although the initial motive of these 6 students who enrolled into the school is different, but the ultimate goal is the same. Stories were woven around them and showing us their ups and downs, their passion and determination and how they have actually grown up along the way.
And I think, this is one of the good dramas that showed you, the attitude that you should have in life is what it takes go thru the tribulations in your life. Life may not always be a bed of roses, so, it is what that's in you that makes the day. Things may not come by easily in life, if you did not get it, why not make one?
This drama is focusing on 6 students who went into the renowned Kirin High Arts School, well-known for producing top class artists in the country. Although the initial motive of these 6 students who enrolled into the school is different, but the ultimate goal is the same. Stories were woven around them and showing us their ups and downs, their passion and determination and how they have actually grown up along the way.
And I think, this is one of the good dramas that showed you, the attitude that you should have in life is what it takes go thru the tribulations in your life. Life may not always be a bed of roses, so, it is what that's in you that makes the day. Things may not come by easily in life, if you did not get it, why not make one?
attitude
Sometimes you may find those forward mails a bit annoying, asking you to check this and that out, sometimes it's just about stuff that make fun of others. However, there are those that forward meaningful stuff to you as well.
I've received a forward email regarding working attitude, which I think I might have come across previously. Nevertheless, the story behind still rang true. Although it is trying to emphasize on working attitude, but I think the same can be applied in our daily lives.
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The Story: SELLING COMB TO THE MONKS
There was one company "manufacturing combs" which intends to expand its business and so the management wanted to employ a new Sales Manager.
The company ADVERTISED the vacancy in the newspaper . They are so many peoples turned up for the interview everyday....accumulated to almost a hundred peoples in just few days...
The Company now having the problem to choose the right candidate for this position . So, The Company interviewer had set A Difficult Task to whom who want to come for final interview.
The Task Is To : Selling Comb To Monks In Temples
Only 3 Applicants willing to stay on for this Final Interview challenge. (Mr A , Mr B , Mr C)
The Chief Interviewer instructed: "Now I want three of you here to sell these wooden combs to the monks in the temples. You only have 10 days to do it and report to me after that."
After 10 days, they reported.
The Chief Interviewer asked Mr A: How many have you sold?
Mr A Answered: Only One.
The Chief Interviewer Asked: How did you manage to sell?
Mr A Answered: The monks in the temples scolded me when I show them the comb . But on my way back to downhill I met a young monk who bought it to scratch his head due to dandruff".
The Chief Interviewer then asked Mr B: How many did you sell?
Mr B replied: 10 pieces. I went to a shrine and noticed many devotees's hair was in bad shape due to strong wind outside the shrine. The monk in there listened to my advice and bought 10 combs for their devotees in showing respect to the Buddha statue.
Then, The Chief Interviewer asked Mr C: How about you?
Mr C replied: 1,000 units.
The Chief Interviewer and the other 2 interviews were astounded.
The Chief Interviewer asked: How you did that?
Mr C replied: I went to a famous temple. After observing for few days I discovered that there were many tourists. I then told the Chief Abbot there. "Sifu, those who come here are much devoted. If you could give them a gift, it will be more elating to them. I told him that I have a bulk of combs here and ask him to raft his handwriting on the combs as a present to those visit here. He was very delighted and straight away ordered 1,000 pieces."
The End of Story.
MORAL OF THE STORY :
HARVARD UNIVERSITY had done a research that says :-
1) 85% of success is due to attitude and 15% is capability
2) Attitude is more important than intelligence , specials skills and luck .
In another word , professional knowledge only constitutes for 15% of success of a person and 85% is due to self-cultivation, public relation and adaptability ability .
Still remember the story of Selling Shoes to African ?
When 2 Salesmen were sent to that continent, one of them reported: Can not do it. No one wears shoes there? The second salesman said: It is good to market . A lot of opportunity .
Success and Failure is dependent on how we face problems.
Remember, when the economic is good, there are peoples going bankrupt .
When business is bad , there are many new millionaires produced as well. So , apply now the 85% right working attitude fully..
All the best!
I've received a forward email regarding working attitude, which I think I might have come across previously. Nevertheless, the story behind still rang true. Although it is trying to emphasize on working attitude, but I think the same can be applied in our daily lives.
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The Story: SELLING COMB TO THE MONKS
There was one company "manufacturing combs" which intends to expand its business and so the management wanted to employ a new Sales Manager.
The company ADVERTISED the vacancy in the newspaper . They are so many peoples turned up for the interview everyday....accumulated to almost a hundred peoples in just few days...
The Company now having the problem to choose the right candidate for this position . So, The Company interviewer had set A Difficult Task to whom who want to come for final interview.
The Task Is To : Selling Comb To Monks In Temples
Only 3 Applicants willing to stay on for this Final Interview challenge. (Mr A , Mr B , Mr C)
The Chief Interviewer instructed: "Now I want three of you here to sell these wooden combs to the monks in the temples. You only have 10 days to do it and report to me after that."
After 10 days, they reported.
The Chief Interviewer asked Mr A: How many have you sold?
Mr A Answered: Only One.
The Chief Interviewer Asked: How did you manage to sell?
Mr A Answered: The monks in the temples scolded me when I show them the comb . But on my way back to downhill I met a young monk who bought it to scratch his head due to dandruff".
The Chief Interviewer then asked Mr B: How many did you sell?
Mr B replied: 10 pieces. I went to a shrine and noticed many devotees's hair was in bad shape due to strong wind outside the shrine. The monk in there listened to my advice and bought 10 combs for their devotees in showing respect to the Buddha statue.
Then, The Chief Interviewer asked Mr C: How about you?
Mr C replied: 1,000 units.
The Chief Interviewer and the other 2 interviews were astounded.
The Chief Interviewer asked: How you did that?
Mr C replied: I went to a famous temple. After observing for few days I discovered that there were many tourists. I then told the Chief Abbot there. "Sifu, those who come here are much devoted. If you could give them a gift, it will be more elating to them. I told him that I have a bulk of combs here and ask him to raft his handwriting on the combs as a present to those visit here. He was very delighted and straight away ordered 1,000 pieces."
The End of Story.
MORAL OF THE STORY :
HARVARD UNIVERSITY had done a research that says :-
1) 85% of success is due to attitude and 15% is capability
2) Attitude is more important than intelligence , specials skills and luck .
In another word , professional knowledge only constitutes for 15% of success of a person and 85% is due to self-cultivation, public relation and adaptability ability .
Still remember the story of Selling Shoes to African ?
When 2 Salesmen were sent to that continent, one of them reported: Can not do it. No one wears shoes there? The second salesman said: It is good to market . A lot of opportunity .
Success and Failure is dependent on how we face problems.
Remember, when the economic is good, there are peoples going bankrupt .
When business is bad , there are many new millionaires produced as well. So , apply now the 85% right working attitude fully..
All the best!
Monday, April 4, 2011
have the time of your life
I nearly missed this great article, written by a columnist in The Star, dated 31st Mar 2011.
Below is the article I copied directly from the online Star.
Hope you all will enjoy it as I did!
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Sometimes, formal education stifles, rather than hones, talent. So, be true to the words of Mark Twain: never let schooling interfere with your education.
LEGEND has it that Death is a human skeleton clothed in a black hooded robe. He wields a scythe and carries an hourglass. The scythe is the harbinger of death. The hourglass is the measure of a lifetime.
Everyone has their own hourglass. Each hourglass holds the Sands of Time. When all but the last precious grains have fallen to the bottom, Death will seek its owner.
Like all legends, there is some grain of truth behind it. Time is a valuable, but finite, resource. In a lifetime, we can make money, fulfil our ambitions and do the fun things we enjoy doing.
But beware, for there are always forces lurking around threatening to steal away our precious time. They are the thieves of time.
The most common ones are those who do not cherish the value of time. They are people who are constantly late for appointments due to traffic jams, rushing for some last-minute chore, and worse of all, losing track of time.
As for social functions, it’s as if the guests all live in different time zones. Some make it a point to be fashionably late. They think that the party doesn’t start till they walk in.
Punctuality is a serious issue. Every minute we are made to wait is a minute of our lifetime lost. With some little thought and time management, punctuality is not an impossible feat.
Space your appointments apart. Don’t make appointments at difficult hours and locations. Start your functions on time regardless. Meet your friend halfway, right at the borderline.
Next are people who think they know best how to manage other people’s time. They range from your parents, teachers, employers and the Government. To control you, they devise systems such as timetables, work schedules and KPIs.
Take school, for example. Educators naturally have a very high opinion of their ability to teach and motivate. But sometimes, formal education stifles, rather than hones, talent.
Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg: living legends and college dropouts – were they omniscient and did they know everything about computer algorithms?
Not quite. They simply had great ideas, and great determination to transform them into a masterpiece. Making a masterpiece takes time. So does formal education. Something’s got to give.
True to the words of Mark Twain, another great American legend, they never let schooling interfere with their education. The rest is history, and humanity is eternally grateful to them.
Let their legacy be a lesson to all of us. Not that education is bad, but if we truly wish to make our own masterpieces, we need to first make our own time.
Parents and teachers will always advise you to go with the flow and stick to the rivers and lakes that you’re used to. But if stagnant waters are not for you, feel free to go chasing waterfalls.
To be fair, most of our elders who seek to manage our time have noble intentions. But there are those with ulterior motives. They steal your time, to save their own time.
Take the video recording system recently introduced to expedite matters in the courts. Every trial proceeding will be captured on camera and burnt onto a DVD. Based on the DVD, lawyers are directed to prepare a written transcript of the proceedings for the court.
Before this, the judges and their secretaries and interpreters have always been responsible for typing out the Notes of Proceedings. But now, they can sit back and relax while the lawyers spend hours painstakingly listening to the DVD to transcribe the Notes of Proceedings.
Why the simple alternative of employing court stenographers has not been implemented is a mystery to all.
Now take our bosses. Most of us are no strangers to working overtime and on weekends. It is fine if it is for productive work that we are truly passionate about. But more often than not, it is for mundane work that any college student can do for RM5 an hour.
Don’t bother asking why, or complaining. Like all masters of time and space, they are poor in helpful explanations but rich in cryptic messages. Their template response would be “When you’re older, you will understand and thank me for this”, which is even less meaningful than “Save the cheerleader, save the world”.
But the greatest thief of time is ourselves. In life, we strive. We are all driven to climb to the next level, much like Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. There are several roads leading up to the peak. The road well-trodden is long, winding, and filled with plateaus.
Plateaus are useful as rest stops for you to catch your breath, take snapshots against the scenic mountainside for your Facebook photo albums and pitch a tent near the laurels for a few days, then another month (okay, two months tops), and where before you know it, you’re stuck there forever.
But there’s also the road less travelled. It may be more steep and treacherous, but it’ll take you faster to the peak, and it has fewer plateaus.
Whichever road we take, we must never linger too long. Patience is virtue, but procrastination is the thief of time. Life is short, but not simple. Good opportunities don’t come around like the postman, but rather like a comet. You should strike when the iron is hot, and it’s hottest when it’s still young and raw.
But sadly, much of youth is wasted on the young. Most of the young folks hesitate, and he who hesitates is lost. Weighed down by a backpack filled with insecurities, excess material baggage and taxing relationships, we struggle to move on.
We think too much, and by the time we act, there’s not much time left to live for. As John Lennon nicely put it, life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans.
Don’t let the precious grains in your hourglass just slip away. Be a master of your own time and space, so when Death comes knocking on your door, you are ready to welcome him with arms wide open.
So here and now, and come what may tomorrow, I hope you have the time of your life.
Below is the article I copied directly from the online Star.
Hope you all will enjoy it as I did!
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Sometimes, formal education stifles, rather than hones, talent. So, be true to the words of Mark Twain: never let schooling interfere with your education.
LEGEND has it that Death is a human skeleton clothed in a black hooded robe. He wields a scythe and carries an hourglass. The scythe is the harbinger of death. The hourglass is the measure of a lifetime.
Everyone has their own hourglass. Each hourglass holds the Sands of Time. When all but the last precious grains have fallen to the bottom, Death will seek its owner.
Like all legends, there is some grain of truth behind it. Time is a valuable, but finite, resource. In a lifetime, we can make money, fulfil our ambitions and do the fun things we enjoy doing.
But beware, for there are always forces lurking around threatening to steal away our precious time. They are the thieves of time.
The most common ones are those who do not cherish the value of time. They are people who are constantly late for appointments due to traffic jams, rushing for some last-minute chore, and worse of all, losing track of time.
As for social functions, it’s as if the guests all live in different time zones. Some make it a point to be fashionably late. They think that the party doesn’t start till they walk in.
Punctuality is a serious issue. Every minute we are made to wait is a minute of our lifetime lost. With some little thought and time management, punctuality is not an impossible feat.
Space your appointments apart. Don’t make appointments at difficult hours and locations. Start your functions on time regardless. Meet your friend halfway, right at the borderline.
Next are people who think they know best how to manage other people’s time. They range from your parents, teachers, employers and the Government. To control you, they devise systems such as timetables, work schedules and KPIs.
Take school, for example. Educators naturally have a very high opinion of their ability to teach and motivate. But sometimes, formal education stifles, rather than hones, talent.
Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg: living legends and college dropouts – were they omniscient and did they know everything about computer algorithms?
Not quite. They simply had great ideas, and great determination to transform them into a masterpiece. Making a masterpiece takes time. So does formal education. Something’s got to give.
True to the words of Mark Twain, another great American legend, they never let schooling interfere with their education. The rest is history, and humanity is eternally grateful to them.
Let their legacy be a lesson to all of us. Not that education is bad, but if we truly wish to make our own masterpieces, we need to first make our own time.
Parents and teachers will always advise you to go with the flow and stick to the rivers and lakes that you’re used to. But if stagnant waters are not for you, feel free to go chasing waterfalls.
To be fair, most of our elders who seek to manage our time have noble intentions. But there are those with ulterior motives. They steal your time, to save their own time.
Take the video recording system recently introduced to expedite matters in the courts. Every trial proceeding will be captured on camera and burnt onto a DVD. Based on the DVD, lawyers are directed to prepare a written transcript of the proceedings for the court.
Before this, the judges and their secretaries and interpreters have always been responsible for typing out the Notes of Proceedings. But now, they can sit back and relax while the lawyers spend hours painstakingly listening to the DVD to transcribe the Notes of Proceedings.
Why the simple alternative of employing court stenographers has not been implemented is a mystery to all.
Now take our bosses. Most of us are no strangers to working overtime and on weekends. It is fine if it is for productive work that we are truly passionate about. But more often than not, it is for mundane work that any college student can do for RM5 an hour.
Don’t bother asking why, or complaining. Like all masters of time and space, they are poor in helpful explanations but rich in cryptic messages. Their template response would be “When you’re older, you will understand and thank me for this”, which is even less meaningful than “Save the cheerleader, save the world”.
But the greatest thief of time is ourselves. In life, we strive. We are all driven to climb to the next level, much like Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. There are several roads leading up to the peak. The road well-trodden is long, winding, and filled with plateaus.
Plateaus are useful as rest stops for you to catch your breath, take snapshots against the scenic mountainside for your Facebook photo albums and pitch a tent near the laurels for a few days, then another month (okay, two months tops), and where before you know it, you’re stuck there forever.
But there’s also the road less travelled. It may be more steep and treacherous, but it’ll take you faster to the peak, and it has fewer plateaus.
Whichever road we take, we must never linger too long. Patience is virtue, but procrastination is the thief of time. Life is short, but not simple. Good opportunities don’t come around like the postman, but rather like a comet. You should strike when the iron is hot, and it’s hottest when it’s still young and raw.
But sadly, much of youth is wasted on the young. Most of the young folks hesitate, and he who hesitates is lost. Weighed down by a backpack filled with insecurities, excess material baggage and taxing relationships, we struggle to move on.
We think too much, and by the time we act, there’s not much time left to live for. As John Lennon nicely put it, life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans.
Don’t let the precious grains in your hourglass just slip away. Be a master of your own time and space, so when Death comes knocking on your door, you are ready to welcome him with arms wide open.
So here and now, and come what may tomorrow, I hope you have the time of your life.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
story from mother
There used to be one column in The Star - Stories From My Mother, which I loved to read. Now sure if the columnist is still writing or not, as I rarely flip the papers nowadays, mostly scrolling around only.
But the story I want to tell today, is truely from my mother, my mother's dream.
She dreamt of the "niu tou ma mian" coming for her. They looked very real just like those that have described, and she realised that they have no legs as well. Both of them seem to get nearer and nearer, and Mum began shouting. "I'm very busy. I have two daughters getting married. Go away. Go away". She kept on repeating the same thing over and over again, but both of them just keep getting nearer, as if ignoring her words.
Then out of no where, another guy appeared. Mum tried to tell that good looking guy the same thing, but just like the other two, he ignored her shouting. He seemed to be talking to the other two, and Mum couldn't understand their language, but just keep on shouting. Then with a wave of hand, as if to tell Mum to continue to do her stuff, the three of them disappear.
After that, Mum immediately gathered us, and start passing down her last words, as if to get ready. But no matter how she waited, the two never came back. Then she awoken from her dream.
She did not recall her dream the moment she woke up, but only after preparing the breakfast, then only she remembered about the dream. Quickly, she dialled Aunt's number, hoping to ask her about what her dream means, but no one picked up the call. As it was time to work, she just carried her questions in her mind to work.
At work, she try to reach Aunt again, but not successful. Then there's a colleague sat down next to her, and she poured out her story. Sitting nearby, a Chinese girl, who had been listening to the story as well, chipped in, "It has been broken". Then she explained further that, the dream has been broken, and Mum will be "safe" for another 12 years. And apparently, the good looking guy in Mum's dream is the judge.
Mum said that, life and death is something out of our control. And since we have all grown up, it's alright even if she had to go away now. But, I'm thinking otherwise. From her dream, it is easily known that she would keep on fighting, until she saw all her daughters are in good hands and were married off happily. Until then, she would be standing firm in her place, no matter who will be coming by to take her away.
Mum sure do have a stubborn side of her.
But the story I want to tell today, is truely from my mother, my mother's dream.
She dreamt of the "niu tou ma mian" coming for her. They looked very real just like those that have described, and she realised that they have no legs as well. Both of them seem to get nearer and nearer, and Mum began shouting. "I'm very busy. I have two daughters getting married. Go away. Go away". She kept on repeating the same thing over and over again, but both of them just keep getting nearer, as if ignoring her words.
Then out of no where, another guy appeared. Mum tried to tell that good looking guy the same thing, but just like the other two, he ignored her shouting. He seemed to be talking to the other two, and Mum couldn't understand their language, but just keep on shouting. Then with a wave of hand, as if to tell Mum to continue to do her stuff, the three of them disappear.
After that, Mum immediately gathered us, and start passing down her last words, as if to get ready. But no matter how she waited, the two never came back. Then she awoken from her dream.
She did not recall her dream the moment she woke up, but only after preparing the breakfast, then only she remembered about the dream. Quickly, she dialled Aunt's number, hoping to ask her about what her dream means, but no one picked up the call. As it was time to work, she just carried her questions in her mind to work.
At work, she try to reach Aunt again, but not successful. Then there's a colleague sat down next to her, and she poured out her story. Sitting nearby, a Chinese girl, who had been listening to the story as well, chipped in, "It has been broken". Then she explained further that, the dream has been broken, and Mum will be "safe" for another 12 years. And apparently, the good looking guy in Mum's dream is the judge.
Mum said that, life and death is something out of our control. And since we have all grown up, it's alright even if she had to go away now. But, I'm thinking otherwise. From her dream, it is easily known that she would keep on fighting, until she saw all her daughters are in good hands and were married off happily. Until then, she would be standing firm in her place, no matter who will be coming by to take her away.
Mum sure do have a stubborn side of her.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
coincidence? fate?
I have been wanting to write about this, but keep on procrastinating. It's fairly amazing how things turned out to be just right, after all.
We have planned to visit a few bridal studios that day. One is fairly far away, while the other three are in the same area. However, unexpectedly, I was not feeling well after the late breakfast and needed some rest.
Time passed till about later afternoon and I started feeling slightly better but decided to stay put for another half an hour before departing, just to monitor my condition.
The heavy rain had also stopped and it was just drizzling by the time we got out.
Due to time constraint, we decided to just stick to one studio, which is the furthest one. Since that was the one I had my eyes on, and the main reason I came all the way down for.
After an hour's journey, we have finally reached the place. Much to our surprise, the studio seem to be only half opened (or maybe half closed).
Upon entering, it clearly stood out among the other studios which I have imagined or been to. It is a gallery, not studio. Everything looked simple and nice in the gallery. And we even talked to the photographer himself. A nice chap who told us everything that we need to know, before we could start asking our questions.
Much to our surprise, the gallery was supposed to close the whole day, as they have had an outdoor shooting scheduled that day. Coincidentally, the heavy rain made them cancelled their plan and they headed back just to clean up and was planning to close for the day, when we stepped in.
So, is it just a coincidence or is it fate?
This may be the so-called, right things happening at the right time.
We have planned to visit a few bridal studios that day. One is fairly far away, while the other three are in the same area. However, unexpectedly, I was not feeling well after the late breakfast and needed some rest.
Time passed till about later afternoon and I started feeling slightly better but decided to stay put for another half an hour before departing, just to monitor my condition.
The heavy rain had also stopped and it was just drizzling by the time we got out.
Due to time constraint, we decided to just stick to one studio, which is the furthest one. Since that was the one I had my eyes on, and the main reason I came all the way down for.
After an hour's journey, we have finally reached the place. Much to our surprise, the studio seem to be only half opened (or maybe half closed).
Upon entering, it clearly stood out among the other studios which I have imagined or been to. It is a gallery, not studio. Everything looked simple and nice in the gallery. And we even talked to the photographer himself. A nice chap who told us everything that we need to know, before we could start asking our questions.
Much to our surprise, the gallery was supposed to close the whole day, as they have had an outdoor shooting scheduled that day. Coincidentally, the heavy rain made them cancelled their plan and they headed back just to clean up and was planning to close for the day, when we stepped in.
So, is it just a coincidence or is it fate?
This may be the so-called, right things happening at the right time.
not all those who wander are lost
Read an interesting quote today - "Not all those who wander are lost". I thought I have been getting lost now and then, as I have been wandering in my life. Now, I wonder if this quote is right after all. I definately hope it is.
It is common to think, if you simply wander around, you will get lost easily. But that quote, makes me think again. Does it meant to say that, those who wander will not be lost, instead, found a better place?
I am not sure, as this statement could have mean differently for different people, as per their own interpretation.
For me, I guess, I will have to tilt up my pillow to think about its meaning tonight.
It is common to think, if you simply wander around, you will get lost easily. But that quote, makes me think again. Does it meant to say that, those who wander will not be lost, instead, found a better place?
I am not sure, as this statement could have mean differently for different people, as per their own interpretation.
For me, I guess, I will have to tilt up my pillow to think about its meaning tonight.
Monday, March 21, 2011
racing against the cloud
The clock showed six o'clock now. Good, I said to myself, thirty minutes to get ready. Quickly, I went to bath and get ready. Ahh, I'm done in just twenty. After pondering for a while, I decided to set out earlier than planned. Better to be early than late.
Shortly, I found a nice spot to park my car. Alright, time for a short walk. Looking at my watch, I am ten minutes ahead of time. Setting at a leisure pace, I looked up to the sky. Gosh, the sky looked dark over the side where I came from. How come I did not notice that earlier. Oh my, I need at least fifteen minutes to walk over to my destination. Will I be able to make it?
Walking at a faster pace now, I kept switching my sight between the road in front of me and the sky up there. The dark clouds seemed to be looming over my head, and at an even faster pace than me. Oh my god, the wind is picking up now. At the other end, dark clouds were covering the sky and there was even lightning striking at a distance. What will happen next?
Just a few more minutes, just give me a few more minutes. I was half brisk walking and half running crossing the streets. I can felt the wind getting stronger and dark clouds were almost covering the whole sky. My mind started wandering on what should I do, if I really cannot avoid the rain. Where should I get covered?
Just give me a few more minutes, I kept mumbling to myself, while trying to walk faster.
Finally, I have reached my destination. After getting a seat for myself, I can feel the sweat started dripping from my face. After wiping the sweat off, then gush, down fall the rain. Gosh, how lucky am I. If I were just few minutes late, I would be totally drenched out there, with such a heavy down pour.
Thank God, someone heard my prayer.
Shortly, I found a nice spot to park my car. Alright, time for a short walk. Looking at my watch, I am ten minutes ahead of time. Setting at a leisure pace, I looked up to the sky. Gosh, the sky looked dark over the side where I came from. How come I did not notice that earlier. Oh my, I need at least fifteen minutes to walk over to my destination. Will I be able to make it?
Walking at a faster pace now, I kept switching my sight between the road in front of me and the sky up there. The dark clouds seemed to be looming over my head, and at an even faster pace than me. Oh my god, the wind is picking up now. At the other end, dark clouds were covering the sky and there was even lightning striking at a distance. What will happen next?
Just a few more minutes, just give me a few more minutes. I was half brisk walking and half running crossing the streets. I can felt the wind getting stronger and dark clouds were almost covering the whole sky. My mind started wandering on what should I do, if I really cannot avoid the rain. Where should I get covered?
Just give me a few more minutes, I kept mumbling to myself, while trying to walk faster.
Finally, I have reached my destination. After getting a seat for myself, I can feel the sweat started dripping from my face. After wiping the sweat off, then gush, down fall the rain. Gosh, how lucky am I. If I were just few minutes late, I would be totally drenched out there, with such a heavy down pour.
Thank God, someone heard my prayer.
Monday, March 14, 2011
couple
Couple is a funny thing.
A couple is two different person, either from same background or different background, who might think alike or totally different mindset, yet, somehow decided to be together.
A couple is also two person after being together for sometime, have somehow decided to go on own's way, regardless of how lovey dovey they used to be, but now have either to be just as friends or maybe total strangers.
How things have started off being as a couple, and how things might have ended up being apart, seem to be natural and inevitable. But, how couple remain as couple, that seems to be the amazing thing.
It actually takes more than words and actions being a couple, where you still need to throw in bits and pieces of faith, consideration, tolerance, appreciation and loyalty.
I wondered, how many couples can indeed fall in love with each other every single day. That will definately be a feat to achieve that.
Of course, undeniable, there is always rough time now and then that a couple will need to go thru. I guess, that was the minor examination to test out the relationship between two. It's either build or break.
Then, of course, once in a blue moon, we'll be faced with major examination. This will be a more stringent test to go thru.
It's alright to fail the test once in a while, but with the failure, you'll need to go thru what you've done wrong. The same test question will only be repeated to you, until you've got it right. That's another amazing thing about the subject "couple", you'll not be passed a new test question until you get the initial one right.
Isn't it far more better than school examination, where the there are a numerous of different questions for just one single subject?
A couple is two different person, either from same background or different background, who might think alike or totally different mindset, yet, somehow decided to be together.
A couple is also two person after being together for sometime, have somehow decided to go on own's way, regardless of how lovey dovey they used to be, but now have either to be just as friends or maybe total strangers.
How things have started off being as a couple, and how things might have ended up being apart, seem to be natural and inevitable. But, how couple remain as couple, that seems to be the amazing thing.
It actually takes more than words and actions being a couple, where you still need to throw in bits and pieces of faith, consideration, tolerance, appreciation and loyalty.
I wondered, how many couples can indeed fall in love with each other every single day. That will definately be a feat to achieve that.
Of course, undeniable, there is always rough time now and then that a couple will need to go thru. I guess, that was the minor examination to test out the relationship between two. It's either build or break.
Then, of course, once in a blue moon, we'll be faced with major examination. This will be a more stringent test to go thru.
It's alright to fail the test once in a while, but with the failure, you'll need to go thru what you've done wrong. The same test question will only be repeated to you, until you've got it right. That's another amazing thing about the subject "couple", you'll not be passed a new test question until you get the initial one right.
Isn't it far more better than school examination, where the there are a numerous of different questions for just one single subject?
hurt
What do you do when you heard something hurtful from others? Do you act denial? Do you feign ignorance? Do you retaliate?
Well, hearing hurtful words from others seems to be a common thing in life now - when trying to iron out an issue, or when trying to come to a conclusion of a discussion. Things can get pretty ugly if they get out of hand.
I guess, we have heard about the all the morale values that we should have when dealing with others in our daily lives - to respect others, hear as well as to listen to others when they are speaking, do not jump into conclusions, think of solution instead of starting blaming game when issue arise, etc, etc.
But when a problem crops up, most of the time, all these values disappear at the same time, too.
Humans first instinct is to protect themselves when facing any danger. No doubt, you can't blame them for that, but on the other hand, it's really annoying, at times.
Sometimes it's really hard to juggle between your feelings, your sense of righteous and your logical thinking. These three seem to clash with each other, at times. If so, who should you listen, too?
Being the one who got hurt is really unbearable. But at the same time, the other party might be thinking he or her is being hurt as well. There it goes, now we have two victims being hurt, but are blaming each other.
Life is so suffocating with all these small issues, right? Why can't live be simpler and happier without all those crappy people?
Or is it that we have missed out something crucial from these?
Maybe we should all start thinking from the bright side of it. Without all these, how would we be able to appreciate simpler lives then? We would have thought simpler lives are just boring lives, instead.
The world sure have its own way to deal with us, humans.
Well, hearing hurtful words from others seems to be a common thing in life now - when trying to iron out an issue, or when trying to come to a conclusion of a discussion. Things can get pretty ugly if they get out of hand.
I guess, we have heard about the all the morale values that we should have when dealing with others in our daily lives - to respect others, hear as well as to listen to others when they are speaking, do not jump into conclusions, think of solution instead of starting blaming game when issue arise, etc, etc.
But when a problem crops up, most of the time, all these values disappear at the same time, too.
Humans first instinct is to protect themselves when facing any danger. No doubt, you can't blame them for that, but on the other hand, it's really annoying, at times.
Sometimes it's really hard to juggle between your feelings, your sense of righteous and your logical thinking. These three seem to clash with each other, at times. If so, who should you listen, too?
Being the one who got hurt is really unbearable. But at the same time, the other party might be thinking he or her is being hurt as well. There it goes, now we have two victims being hurt, but are blaming each other.
Life is so suffocating with all these small issues, right? Why can't live be simpler and happier without all those crappy people?
Or is it that we have missed out something crucial from these?
Maybe we should all start thinking from the bright side of it. Without all these, how would we be able to appreciate simpler lives then? We would have thought simpler lives are just boring lives, instead.
The world sure have its own way to deal with us, humans.
handwriting
With the advance technology today, sooner or later, pencil might be an extinct object.
In schools, we used to write with pencils or pens. As time goes by, and technology advanced, people started to type. First we have the typewriter, then we have the computer. And now, we even have touchscreen!
Don't you just missed the good, old days?
In schools, we used to write with pencils or pens. As time goes by, and technology advanced, people started to type. First we have the typewriter, then we have the computer. And now, we even have touchscreen!
Don't you just missed the good, old days?
yoga
I used to think what kind of sports is this. When I passed by any advertistment or board of yoga classes, I used to think that someday, I would join it, too. Maybe I was attracted by the pose, or maybe I was just attracted by the name.
Then, once, I was asked by my friends to join their yoga class. Boy, how happy am I. Though, I have really not much idea how a yoga class would be like, then.
Till now, I've been attending my yoga class for roughly three and half years. But, I would still say that I'm just at the beginner level, due to the lack of diligence in daily practice.
Along the way, there are times that I had the thought of giving up. There are also times which I felt burdened attending the class. However, there are also times which I just love the sweats, the aches, the laughter and the crowd.
I have learnt quite a lot of things in the class. Things that can, not only apply in the sports itself, but also can apply in life.
"Practice makes perfect", a reminder that teacher kept telling us. We should spend about 10 to 30 mins per day to do some simple yoga, whatever that we can remembered of. In life, too, not everyone is a genius. Therefore, we need to keep practicing till we perfected our skill.
"Never force yourself", another favourite quote of my teacher. It's alright if we are not able to do certain pose, as it's either we just don't have enough practice for now, or it's that we just can't do it due to our body structure. In life, there are things which we simply can't force them to happen the way we want it. So, we have to learn to accept it and face it.
"Be thankful", a practice that teacher never forgets, where she's always thankful by the end of the class. She said it's to be thankful of the students (us), be thankful for the healthy body, etc. If life, sometimes, we tend to take things granted that we forget to be thankful, to appreciate the small, little things that happened to us.
There are a lot of learnings in life, whereby we might not be able to finish learning even in our lifetime.
Then, once, I was asked by my friends to join their yoga class. Boy, how happy am I. Though, I have really not much idea how a yoga class would be like, then.
Till now, I've been attending my yoga class for roughly three and half years. But, I would still say that I'm just at the beginner level, due to the lack of diligence in daily practice.
Along the way, there are times that I had the thought of giving up. There are also times which I felt burdened attending the class. However, there are also times which I just love the sweats, the aches, the laughter and the crowd.
I have learnt quite a lot of things in the class. Things that can, not only apply in the sports itself, but also can apply in life.
"Practice makes perfect", a reminder that teacher kept telling us. We should spend about 10 to 30 mins per day to do some simple yoga, whatever that we can remembered of. In life, too, not everyone is a genius. Therefore, we need to keep practicing till we perfected our skill.
"Never force yourself", another favourite quote of my teacher. It's alright if we are not able to do certain pose, as it's either we just don't have enough practice for now, or it's that we just can't do it due to our body structure. In life, there are things which we simply can't force them to happen the way we want it. So, we have to learn to accept it and face it.
"Be thankful", a practice that teacher never forgets, where she's always thankful by the end of the class. She said it's to be thankful of the students (us), be thankful for the healthy body, etc. If life, sometimes, we tend to take things granted that we forget to be thankful, to appreciate the small, little things that happened to us.
There are a lot of learnings in life, whereby we might not be able to finish learning even in our lifetime.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
why can't you?
I was flabbergasted. By just a simple, straightforward remark.
We were chatting about finding new jobs and I made a comment that I'm worried I'm not able to find a new job.
An instant remark from my friend is, why am I not able to find one?
Thinking back, I just realised how negative minded have I become.
No doubt, one cannot force a company to employ you, but once you have this negative seed planted in your mind, it might just turn away every opportunity that you may have.
I've made a decision today, which I'm not sure whether this decision is right or wrong. The only comfort that I have is that this is what I feel I should be doing. Some may thought I will certainly regret, turning down such a good opportunity. But right now, I feel that I just wanted to take a bold step out. I may regret some day later, but definately not now.
It actually feel good, trying to thread on an unpredictable condition. Though it may feel scary, but at the same time, you are actually trying to gauge yourself, on how far and how long you can endure.
So, right now, I'm starting to embark on a new journey. An unknown destination, which I need to slowly sense my way out.
Wish me luck!
And for those who are still skeptical about their decision, I wish that you, too, would try to take a bold step ahead. One may not know what lies in the future but one certainly can try all means to get to where you want to be, so that you'll have no regret in not trying.
We were chatting about finding new jobs and I made a comment that I'm worried I'm not able to find a new job.
An instant remark from my friend is, why am I not able to find one?
Thinking back, I just realised how negative minded have I become.
No doubt, one cannot force a company to employ you, but once you have this negative seed planted in your mind, it might just turn away every opportunity that you may have.
I've made a decision today, which I'm not sure whether this decision is right or wrong. The only comfort that I have is that this is what I feel I should be doing. Some may thought I will certainly regret, turning down such a good opportunity. But right now, I feel that I just wanted to take a bold step out. I may regret some day later, but definately not now.
It actually feel good, trying to thread on an unpredictable condition. Though it may feel scary, but at the same time, you are actually trying to gauge yourself, on how far and how long you can endure.
So, right now, I'm starting to embark on a new journey. An unknown destination, which I need to slowly sense my way out.
Wish me luck!
And for those who are still skeptical about their decision, I wish that you, too, would try to take a bold step ahead. One may not know what lies in the future but one certainly can try all means to get to where you want to be, so that you'll have no regret in not trying.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
big stone, small stones ..
The radio conversation caught my interest while I'm about to turn my key to off the engine. I stop my hand and lean back to listen to the conversation.
It is about a girl who had dropped what she had to pursue her dream. It was 10 years later, when she bump into a friend of hers, and they started chatting about what happened to them for the past 10 years.
If you have the chance, would you do the same? To drop the current things that you have in your life, and pursue your dream, even though not knowing if you will fail to chase your dream Or soar high following your dream.
The deejay also mentioned about having big stone or small stones. In life, you may either focus your attention to a big stone, like a big dream, or you'll end up having your focus turn onto the small little stones in your life.
To have the meaning in your life is very important. To know what you are living for, to know your dream and to know where you want to be.
Take a step back today, and try to imagine where do you want to be in the next 10 years time.
It is about a girl who had dropped what she had to pursue her dream. It was 10 years later, when she bump into a friend of hers, and they started chatting about what happened to them for the past 10 years.
If you have the chance, would you do the same? To drop the current things that you have in your life, and pursue your dream, even though not knowing if you will fail to chase your dream Or soar high following your dream.
The deejay also mentioned about having big stone or small stones. In life, you may either focus your attention to a big stone, like a big dream, or you'll end up having your focus turn onto the small little stones in your life.
To have the meaning in your life is very important. To know what you are living for, to know your dream and to know where you want to be.
Take a step back today, and try to imagine where do you want to be in the next 10 years time.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
losing memory
Sometimes, when life is getting frustrating, how you wished that there's a bottle of magic potion for you to take in a gulp, and in an instance, miraculously, you will forget all your problems and unhappiness.
But, ain't this is only something that happens in drama?
However, if you think deeply enough, this might not be something that you would want to happen at all.
It's true that sometimes, life is tough. And it might have just get tougher and tougher.
But, memories are something you should hold on dearly, too.
Memory is something that you gained, little by little, over time. No matter how sad or bad, a memory is, it is still a part of our memories, our life, what we have gone through. Any missing parts, will only make our life seems incomplete.
When life get tough, just hang on there. No matter how heavy a storm is, there will still be a break of sunshine.
But, ain't this is only something that happens in drama?
However, if you think deeply enough, this might not be something that you would want to happen at all.
It's true that sometimes, life is tough. And it might have just get tougher and tougher.
But, memories are something you should hold on dearly, too.
Memory is something that you gained, little by little, over time. No matter how sad or bad, a memory is, it is still a part of our memories, our life, what we have gone through. Any missing parts, will only make our life seems incomplete.
When life get tough, just hang on there. No matter how heavy a storm is, there will still be a break of sunshine.
talent & experience
Been chasing after the Jap drama - Code Blue for a few episodes now. Jap dramas are really good in protraying daily lives situation and human traits.
Code Blue is about 4 doctors training to be Doctor Heli - doctors that are send on helicopter during emergency situations, where they need to react fast towards any reported or unexpected case on the spot of the accident.
To be landed in the career of your life, you need to have the talent in what you are doing and the experiences that can help you along the way. Nevertheless, you also need to have the preseverance to believe in what you want to achieve. This preseverance will, nonetheless, make up for the lack of talent or experience that you may have.
If you have the preseverance and believe in yourself, it's just the matter of time, to have others to give you the chance of realising your dream.
Code Blue is about 4 doctors training to be Doctor Heli - doctors that are send on helicopter during emergency situations, where they need to react fast towards any reported or unexpected case on the spot of the accident.
To be landed in the career of your life, you need to have the talent in what you are doing and the experiences that can help you along the way. Nevertheless, you also need to have the preseverance to believe in what you want to achieve. This preseverance will, nonetheless, make up for the lack of talent or experience that you may have.
If you have the preseverance and believe in yourself, it's just the matter of time, to have others to give you the chance of realising your dream.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
healthy emotion
Just stumbled across an old article published in The Star somewhere in Feb'10. An article by Kotra Pharma.
In times, we tend to forget that we need to be emotionally healthy, too. Your mental is the most powerful weapon of yourself. Treat it well, and next you'll see that you're soaring up high in the sky.
Though it may be a bit long, but do spend some time to read the whole article (as below).
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The more you invest in emotional health, the better equipped you’ll be to tackle life.
WHETHER you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or 60s, your emotional wellbeing should not be taken for granted. Emotional health has a bearing on everything that we do, so it is vital to be healthy in that department, at any age.
When you are emotionally healthy, you have better control of your feelings and behaviour. You are capable of handling life’s ups and downs better, building stronger relationships, and becoming more resilient.
Being emotionally healthy equates with being mentally healthy. Being mentally healthy does not mean an existence that is free from depression or other psychological challenges. Rather, it points to the ability to draw on positive strengths to cope with the negative aspects of life. When you are mentally or emotionally healthy, you are able to face any uphill issues positively. These will not break you.
Taking care of your physical health is one way to ensure emotional and mental health. No matter the age, the person who looks after his or her body will experience greater mental health. When you exercise, endorphins are also released. These chemicals from the brain and nervous system energise and lift moods. Exercise relieves stress, anxiety, and depression,
In addition, make sure you get the nutrients your body needs to keep all its parts functioning properly. A simple supplement may be the solution.
Get out and spend some time outdoors every day. Even a short spell of 10 minutes can be very invigorating.
Also remember to make time spent alone meaningful, productive, and enjoyable. Learn to enjoy your own company. Partake in activities that stimulate the mind and body.
Last but not least, sleep well. The average seven to eight hours sleep every night will help you to function at your optimum during the day.
Sadness is common among the aged for a multitude of reasons: loss of independence, career, health, a loved one, mobility, etc. But depression is not normal. Losing all hope and joy is not age-inclusive. When this happens, as it sometimes might, do not withdraw into isolation. Instead, take positive steps and talk to someone. Do not let this mental and emotional state slide go untreated.
Your feelings are very important! Make sure you take care of them. Do not let stress and negative emotions get in the way. Cultivate a good balance between what you perceive as responsibilities and the things you enjoy. The important thing is to ultimately feel good about yourself and the things you do.
Getting in touch with your senses is a good first step in that direction.
1. Awaken your senses. Indulge in therapies that appeal to your sense of smell, touch, taste, sound, and sight. Place a bowl of geraniums where you can see and smell them. Sip warm luxuriant ginger tea as you listen to uplifting music.
2. Awaken your sense of creativity. Engage in activities that will challenge your mind. You can plan and create a beautiful garden, a section at a time. Watch your creation take shape with time.
Let your hidden talents surface, be they in painting, carpentry, writing, playing a musical instrument, or cooking.
3. Awaken your love. Get a pet. No love is quite as unconditional as a pet’s. Whilst the responsibility gives you a sense of purpose, pets offer companionship, a reason to get out of your house for fresh air and exercise and a way to make new friends with other pet lovers.
4. Awaken your sense of humour. Watch movies that make you laugh. Surround yourself with friends that laugh often. Learn to always look at the funny side of things. You’ll soon find yourself in a better mood than most.
5. Awaken your sense of wonder. Explore new places. Read books you’ve never had before. Learn new skills. Take up an amazing new hobby.
6. Awaken your sense of gratitude. Take time to appreciate all the simple things that you have. Reflect or meditate on it. Be thankful for the garden, for the trees, for the inspiring beauty of the rising sun, for the people who care, for the little things that you can enjoy.
Be proactive. Yes you can be sixty-something and be a go-getter. Do not wait for someone to call or something to happen. Go out and get them. Do something for someone you care in itsy-bitsy ways. Call up a buddy to join you for morning coffee or a movie. It does not always have to be members of your family. Expand your network of friends.
Support can also come in the form of moral or emotional support from people who can identify with your needs. Do not limit your circle of friends to people your own age. Make an effort to befriend the young. You can learn something from each other.
Be adventurous and take every opportunity you can to feel free and independent. You’d be amazed at how your children and grandchildren see you. They are very likely to rally behind and around you to hear your stories and share your experiences.
For those who lack mobility, join some interest group, be it from the neighbourhood church or charitable organisation. Think of ways you can volunteer. Ask if there is anything you can do under your circumstances. If you can’t go to them, there is a chance things can be organised where they can come to you. Explore possibilities. Perhaps you can do social work from home through the phone, or run a home business that gives you the opportunity to interact with others and gain some independence for yourself.
Make it a point to join a club or society where you can interact with people on a regular basis. It is an interesting way to make new friends and forge supportive relationships with people of like minds
If you have done what you can for your emotional and mental health and still feel down, you are in trouble. It’s time to raise the SOS call. For the senior, any of these signs signal “Please help!”:
•Insomnia
•Anxiety and worries
•Memory problems
•Feelings of helplessness
•Feelings of hopelessness
•Irritability
•Unexplained aches and pains
•Lack of interest in personal care
•Loss of joy
Once you see the signs, it’s time to call on a professional counsellor. Just remember, the sooner one gets counselling or therapy, the faster one gets out of the problem and regains emotional health. The longer you wait, the more entrenched the problem becomes. Reaching out helps get you emotionally and mentally healthy again.
In times, we tend to forget that we need to be emotionally healthy, too. Your mental is the most powerful weapon of yourself. Treat it well, and next you'll see that you're soaring up high in the sky.
Though it may be a bit long, but do spend some time to read the whole article (as below).
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The more you invest in emotional health, the better equipped you’ll be to tackle life.
WHETHER you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or 60s, your emotional wellbeing should not be taken for granted. Emotional health has a bearing on everything that we do, so it is vital to be healthy in that department, at any age.
When you are emotionally healthy, you have better control of your feelings and behaviour. You are capable of handling life’s ups and downs better, building stronger relationships, and becoming more resilient.
Being emotionally healthy equates with being mentally healthy. Being mentally healthy does not mean an existence that is free from depression or other psychological challenges. Rather, it points to the ability to draw on positive strengths to cope with the negative aspects of life. When you are mentally or emotionally healthy, you are able to face any uphill issues positively. These will not break you.
Taking care of your physical health is one way to ensure emotional and mental health. No matter the age, the person who looks after his or her body will experience greater mental health. When you exercise, endorphins are also released. These chemicals from the brain and nervous system energise and lift moods. Exercise relieves stress, anxiety, and depression,
In addition, make sure you get the nutrients your body needs to keep all its parts functioning properly. A simple supplement may be the solution.
Get out and spend some time outdoors every day. Even a short spell of 10 minutes can be very invigorating.
Also remember to make time spent alone meaningful, productive, and enjoyable. Learn to enjoy your own company. Partake in activities that stimulate the mind and body.
Last but not least, sleep well. The average seven to eight hours sleep every night will help you to function at your optimum during the day.
Sadness is common among the aged for a multitude of reasons: loss of independence, career, health, a loved one, mobility, etc. But depression is not normal. Losing all hope and joy is not age-inclusive. When this happens, as it sometimes might, do not withdraw into isolation. Instead, take positive steps and talk to someone. Do not let this mental and emotional state slide go untreated.
Your feelings are very important! Make sure you take care of them. Do not let stress and negative emotions get in the way. Cultivate a good balance between what you perceive as responsibilities and the things you enjoy. The important thing is to ultimately feel good about yourself and the things you do.
Getting in touch with your senses is a good first step in that direction.
1. Awaken your senses. Indulge in therapies that appeal to your sense of smell, touch, taste, sound, and sight. Place a bowl of geraniums where you can see and smell them. Sip warm luxuriant ginger tea as you listen to uplifting music.
2. Awaken your sense of creativity. Engage in activities that will challenge your mind. You can plan and create a beautiful garden, a section at a time. Watch your creation take shape with time.
Let your hidden talents surface, be they in painting, carpentry, writing, playing a musical instrument, or cooking.
3. Awaken your love. Get a pet. No love is quite as unconditional as a pet’s. Whilst the responsibility gives you a sense of purpose, pets offer companionship, a reason to get out of your house for fresh air and exercise and a way to make new friends with other pet lovers.
4. Awaken your sense of humour. Watch movies that make you laugh. Surround yourself with friends that laugh often. Learn to always look at the funny side of things. You’ll soon find yourself in a better mood than most.
5. Awaken your sense of wonder. Explore new places. Read books you’ve never had before. Learn new skills. Take up an amazing new hobby.
6. Awaken your sense of gratitude. Take time to appreciate all the simple things that you have. Reflect or meditate on it. Be thankful for the garden, for the trees, for the inspiring beauty of the rising sun, for the people who care, for the little things that you can enjoy.
Be proactive. Yes you can be sixty-something and be a go-getter. Do not wait for someone to call or something to happen. Go out and get them. Do something for someone you care in itsy-bitsy ways. Call up a buddy to join you for morning coffee or a movie. It does not always have to be members of your family. Expand your network of friends.
Support can also come in the form of moral or emotional support from people who can identify with your needs. Do not limit your circle of friends to people your own age. Make an effort to befriend the young. You can learn something from each other.
Be adventurous and take every opportunity you can to feel free and independent. You’d be amazed at how your children and grandchildren see you. They are very likely to rally behind and around you to hear your stories and share your experiences.
For those who lack mobility, join some interest group, be it from the neighbourhood church or charitable organisation. Think of ways you can volunteer. Ask if there is anything you can do under your circumstances. If you can’t go to them, there is a chance things can be organised where they can come to you. Explore possibilities. Perhaps you can do social work from home through the phone, or run a home business that gives you the opportunity to interact with others and gain some independence for yourself.
Make it a point to join a club or society where you can interact with people on a regular basis. It is an interesting way to make new friends and forge supportive relationships with people of like minds
If you have done what you can for your emotional and mental health and still feel down, you are in trouble. It’s time to raise the SOS call. For the senior, any of these signs signal “Please help!”:
•Insomnia
•Anxiety and worries
•Memory problems
•Feelings of helplessness
•Feelings of hopelessness
•Irritability
•Unexplained aches and pains
•Lack of interest in personal care
•Loss of joy
Once you see the signs, it’s time to call on a professional counsellor. Just remember, the sooner one gets counselling or therapy, the faster one gets out of the problem and regains emotional health. The longer you wait, the more entrenched the problem becomes. Reaching out helps get you emotionally and mentally healthy again.
drama vs reality
Is drama created from part of life? Or is life just part of drama?
When life is frustrating, you might be hoping that your life is just like a drama, where the mighty prince comes and swept you off your feets, or, where the guys looking at you green with envy when you had the prettiest girl under your arms.
Maybe that's why people like drama. A place where they can envisioned having the best of the drama happening to them, which is what's totally contrast to their own dull life.
But, is your life really that dull and lifeless? Empty and meaningless?
Or maybe just because you did not have the right director to focus out on the highlight of your life or you do not have the right music to bring out the essence of your life?
Isn't that what's drama about?
Having the right producer, director, music producer to bring life to the drama script.
The only difference is that you are your own life drama script, producer, director and music producer.
No matter how reluctant you may want to admit that.
That's the truth.
So, why do you only want to be lost in the drama world?
Why not create your own drama and play it out.
It may not have the best response among others (so are the dramas out there), but it's definately worth producing it, as you will be playing the lead role.
Though it won't be any easy (ask any drama producers), but it's definately once-a-lifetime opportunity.
To those who has been living a drama-like life, hope you are enjoying your own drama.
Drama is supposed to have the high and low peak throughout the storyline (so is life), so that they can keep the attention of the viewers.
Last but not least, appreciate your life, the same way as you appreciate a drama.
It's tough to create a beautiful drama, but with the right determination, anything can be done!
When life is frustrating, you might be hoping that your life is just like a drama, where the mighty prince comes and swept you off your feets, or, where the guys looking at you green with envy when you had the prettiest girl under your arms.
Maybe that's why people like drama. A place where they can envisioned having the best of the drama happening to them, which is what's totally contrast to their own dull life.
But, is your life really that dull and lifeless? Empty and meaningless?
Or maybe just because you did not have the right director to focus out on the highlight of your life or you do not have the right music to bring out the essence of your life?
Isn't that what's drama about?
Having the right producer, director, music producer to bring life to the drama script.
The only difference is that you are your own life drama script, producer, director and music producer.
No matter how reluctant you may want to admit that.
That's the truth.
So, why do you only want to be lost in the drama world?
Why not create your own drama and play it out.
It may not have the best response among others (so are the dramas out there), but it's definately worth producing it, as you will be playing the lead role.
Though it won't be any easy (ask any drama producers), but it's definately once-a-lifetime opportunity.
To those who has been living a drama-like life, hope you are enjoying your own drama.
Drama is supposed to have the high and low peak throughout the storyline (so is life), so that they can keep the attention of the viewers.
Last but not least, appreciate your life, the same way as you appreciate a drama.
It's tough to create a beautiful drama, but with the right determination, anything can be done!
Thursday, February 24, 2011
learn .. to let go .. face the pain
Had a brief session, listening to my teacher sharing her experience of her dad almost stepping over to the death entrance. She told us what to look out for stroke patient as well as to what services provided by various hospital for stroke patient. But what captured my attention the most, is she said she's learning how to let go and to face the pain.
In whatever circumstances may come, there will be a time to let go of what you have, no matter how precious it may be to you. So, you have to learn to let go. Practice to let go, therefore, when it's time to let go, you wouldn't feel unbearable. Though, as human, we have feelings, therefore, we tend to have the desire not to lose it, and wanted to hang on to it. However, when the time really comes, we still have to let go. Therefore, we need to learn now, learn to let go.
Pain is a feeling, that it might get worse if we use our imagination to feel it, than it really is, in reality. So, face the pain. Face it and you would realised that, it doesn't hurt as much as you thought it might be. Face it and you would realised that, you can actually take in the pain, to your own surprise.
In life, we just have to give and take.
In whatever circumstances may come, there will be a time to let go of what you have, no matter how precious it may be to you. So, you have to learn to let go. Practice to let go, therefore, when it's time to let go, you wouldn't feel unbearable. Though, as human, we have feelings, therefore, we tend to have the desire not to lose it, and wanted to hang on to it. However, when the time really comes, we still have to let go. Therefore, we need to learn now, learn to let go.
Pain is a feeling, that it might get worse if we use our imagination to feel it, than it really is, in reality. So, face the pain. Face it and you would realised that, it doesn't hurt as much as you thought it might be. Face it and you would realised that, you can actually take in the pain, to your own surprise.
In life, we just have to give and take.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
short walk
Just barely an hour walk outside, and my mind is being triggered by things happening around me.
I think, not everyone in the the service line understood what it means to smile to customer. Though we can see there's a lot of boards or posters or tags giving out to the front line, indicating they should smile at you, but do they really smile? A smile is something that should come out from your heart, not just to be put on the face. Maybe some people can fake it well. But a smile coming from the bottom of the heart, cannot be disguised.
I wondered do the customer service or the sales rep knows what their values are to the first time customer to their premise? Maybe day in and day out, they have been facing numerous customers, whom might be frequent buyers. But to those first time customers, their sincere help and smile is what that makes the day of the customers.
Sometimes, I do wonder, how long can you be passionate in your job? The first three months? The first year? It is when you are passionate about your job, that you really would give your best and also to do your best for your customers or end users. They, on the other hand, will feel it, too.
Before i ended my walk, I saw a showcase on some models of the cars. I wondered to myself. What does it means to have a good car? There are various car models being put on market almost every year or every quarter of they year. Features are getting greater and greater. Are these considered good car? One thought suddenly pops up. To me, good car are those driven by others, to pick me up. No matter what car model they are driving, as long as they are the one driving it for me, those are good cars! Well, cars are actually meant to be a mode of transport anyway. Why be too concerned about their looks and features?
I think, not everyone in the the service line understood what it means to smile to customer. Though we can see there's a lot of boards or posters or tags giving out to the front line, indicating they should smile at you, but do they really smile? A smile is something that should come out from your heart, not just to be put on the face. Maybe some people can fake it well. But a smile coming from the bottom of the heart, cannot be disguised.
I wondered do the customer service or the sales rep knows what their values are to the first time customer to their premise? Maybe day in and day out, they have been facing numerous customers, whom might be frequent buyers. But to those first time customers, their sincere help and smile is what that makes the day of the customers.
Sometimes, I do wonder, how long can you be passionate in your job? The first three months? The first year? It is when you are passionate about your job, that you really would give your best and also to do your best for your customers or end users. They, on the other hand, will feel it, too.
Before i ended my walk, I saw a showcase on some models of the cars. I wondered to myself. What does it means to have a good car? There are various car models being put on market almost every year or every quarter of they year. Features are getting greater and greater. Are these considered good car? One thought suddenly pops up. To me, good car are those driven by others, to pick me up. No matter what car model they are driving, as long as they are the one driving it for me, those are good cars! Well, cars are actually meant to be a mode of transport anyway. Why be too concerned about their looks and features?
Sunday, February 13, 2011
valentine (2)
It is just one day before Valentine's Day and I've gotten two "heart breaking" news. Apparently, two of my friends were out of their relationships.
Relationship is so, you are always either falling in or out of it. I just hoped that these two of my friends, will still have a great Valentine's Day. Do not brood over what was unhappy or what was over.
To my friends who were just out of relationships, life might seems to be a little tougher now, but hang on to it. Be happy and enjoy your days, as you might meet a better one in time to come!
And to my friends who are still single, your better half will be here soon. Be happy and enjoy your days, as you might missed your single days soon!
To my friends who are in relationship or are married, do cherish your better half .Be happy and enjoy your days, as fate is something to be treasured!
Relationship is so, you are always either falling in or out of it. I just hoped that these two of my friends, will still have a great Valentine's Day. Do not brood over what was unhappy or what was over.
To my friends who were just out of relationships, life might seems to be a little tougher now, but hang on to it. Be happy and enjoy your days, as you might meet a better one in time to come!
And to my friends who are still single, your better half will be here soon. Be happy and enjoy your days, as you might missed your single days soon!
To my friends who are in relationship or are married, do cherish your better half .Be happy and enjoy your days, as fate is something to be treasured!
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
valentine
Recently, there is this Valentine's Day video being circulate in the FB. I think it's pretty good. The videographer interviewed 10 couples, by asking them 3 simple questions - How do you meet each other, How long have you been together and lastly, What do you love about each other.
I like the third question - What do you love about each other.
How often do you really think deep into this question? Some couples might have find each other attractive enough and started hanging out together. Some may just hit off instantaneously and started dating.
But what is it that is in him/her, that makes you think he/she is the one for you?
Or as time goes by, what is it that is in him/her that simply makes you to fall over him/her again and again?
I think the answer to this is the key, or one of the keys, that will locks your relationship tight and firm.
I actually like one of the answers given, for this third question - We can still laugh together.
Being in a relationship, is to being together. Though not necessarily means being physically stuck together, 24 by 7. It is just simply being able to do things together, to laugh together, to enjoy the scenery together, etc, etc.
What would your answer be?
If you have not think of this question before, maybe it's time to put some thought in it.
Happy Valentine's Day, everyone!
I like the third question - What do you love about each other.
How often do you really think deep into this question? Some couples might have find each other attractive enough and started hanging out together. Some may just hit off instantaneously and started dating.
But what is it that is in him/her, that makes you think he/she is the one for you?
Or as time goes by, what is it that is in him/her that simply makes you to fall over him/her again and again?
I think the answer to this is the key, or one of the keys, that will locks your relationship tight and firm.
I actually like one of the answers given, for this third question - We can still laugh together.
Being in a relationship, is to being together. Though not necessarily means being physically stuck together, 24 by 7. It is just simply being able to do things together, to laugh together, to enjoy the scenery together, etc, etc.
What would your answer be?
If you have not think of this question before, maybe it's time to put some thought in it.
Happy Valentine's Day, everyone!
Monday, January 24, 2011
人
人 is a simple word to be written, yet hard to become a good one.
Maybe that's the challenge and quest that we need to face and conquer.
This may be our ultimate goal in life.
Maybe that's the challenge and quest that we need to face and conquer.
This may be our ultimate goal in life.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
like minded
It's amazing how one makes friends.
For relationship, people would says opposites attract. But for friendship, it would be the like minded attracts. Just look around you.
There are just some friends which you seem to get along well with and hit off instantly while some you need time to get along. But there are also some whom you just seem not to have any topic to talk with. Though socialization skill do play a role in starting a friendship, but in the end, the main essence that maintains a friendship is the like mindness between these friends.
For relationship, people would says opposites attract. But for friendship, it would be the like minded attracts. Just look around you.
There are just some friends which you seem to get along well with and hit off instantly while some you need time to get along. But there are also some whom you just seem not to have any topic to talk with. Though socialization skill do play a role in starting a friendship, but in the end, the main essence that maintains a friendship is the like mindness between these friends.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
checklist
There are actually so many things to be prepared for a wedding, indeed.
I've heard people planning one year ahead of their wedding day, can imagine if there are those that get prepared even earlier than that.
But of course, there are also people who do the last minute task.
Internet is indeed a global library, where information can be gathered in just a split seconds. Still, you'll need to filter through to see which are the ones you really need.
Checklist, checklisst .. My goal of the week is to prepare my wedding checklist!
I've heard people planning one year ahead of their wedding day, can imagine if there are those that get prepared even earlier than that.
But of course, there are also people who do the last minute task.
Internet is indeed a global library, where information can be gathered in just a split seconds. Still, you'll need to filter through to see which are the ones you really need.
Checklist, checklisst .. My goal of the week is to prepare my wedding checklist!
Monday, January 3, 2011
will & determination
Each person's will and determination is different, thus differentiating how each and everyone succeed in their lives.
So, steel up your will and grip tight onto your determination to achieve your resolutions this year.
They can do it, so can we.
You can do it!
So, steel up your will and grip tight onto your determination to achieve your resolutions this year.
They can do it, so can we.
You can do it!
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