adios casa vieja

After so long, it's finalized now. 

There's a saying "there's no banquet that doesn't end", referring to all good things must come to an end.

I guess this happens and applies to all of us - we came to this earth without anything on our back, and we will also leave without anything when we go.

But having to live, means to have emotion. Emotion is not only for the people we have engaged with, but the things we have used or lived with, and also the environment that we grew up in. But as we lived, we grew. As we grew, we moved, we changed. We are never going to be at the same place, or in the same state as we were when we are born. And the attachment may feel different, as we aged. Kids can't take off their eyes from the soft toys they cuddled since they were young, but as they grew, the same attachment may shift to other things. As we grow old, our sentimental value changed. Priorities in life shifted. Things just don't seem to be the same anymore.

It may be sad, when we let go of the things we are so used to, but that's how life is. We have to learn to say goodbye and just move on. Nothing is everlasting, as, even memories will fade as time flew. But this shouldn't stop us from living this life with purpose and enjoy what life showers us.

Adios mi vieja casa. Adios mis vecinos y vecinas. Thank you for the 33 years. Unbelievable that we've actually spent a third of our lifetime there, and now it's time to say goodbye. I'm lucky that I'm able to send you off, though not in a manner that I expected it to be. Still, you will be forever as a part of our fond memories, as long as any one of us is still around. Adios.

relationship

Life is fragile, human relationship is fragile, but it is all these fragile things that bond us together, give us hope, keep us going on a little longer, a little farther.

From a nucleus family, to extended family, to friends, to acquaintances, everyday we lived, an unseen web will keep on weaving on its own, and keep on growing, though sometimes too big, or sometimes unexpectedly small. 

The web path that we crossed, sometimes just once, sometimes kind of frequent, or sometimes tangled up or messy. A path that we might be familiar with, or thought to be familiar with, or a path broken yet somehow mended back.

To the life that we will only lived once, let's us all treasure what we have, regardless whether in this live we have more or less, as the most important is to live with love. 

ten minutes

Just wondering, what can we do in 10 minutes time?

Ten minutes seem to be too short for a sleep, but good enough for a forty winks.

Ten minutes seem to be too short for a meal preparation, yet enough to whip out a breakfast.

Ten minutes seem to be too short for reading a novel but just nice for a short read.

Time indeed varies, depending on what we want to do, or what we need to do.

What will you be doing, if you only have 10 minutes to spare, before your next task?

the day your heart missed a skip

Have you ever had the moment, that your heart had missed a skip?

Most would recalled surprised moments that happened to them, for some would be unbelievable moments, while some may be horrifying moments.

Well, mine was, the day I was told my kid lied.

The day went out as usual, things got busy towards midday, when a call came through. In the call, the teacher told me that my kid lied, then summarized what had happened. My heart literally missed a skip, and sunken down as I hear the teacher explaining. 

I was still trying to hold onto some hope, hoping that there's still a grain of truth not being told, or a grievance yet to be unfolded. Yet, all hopes were gone, when I caught up with my kid.

What hurts the most, is that I realized the kid didn't trust me enough and had to resort lying to me. I can understand the fact that kids do lie, now and then. Well, who doesn't? Which kid is not afraid of punishments after being caught doing wrong things? I might have done that, too (hopefully I hadn't but age is catching up which I can't pinpoint mine now, if I ever had).

The kid felt betrayed, as all these while, if there's a mistake done, I forced the action of owning up, which will cause punishment. This really baffled me. 

So, end of the day, punishment was still being carried out. Even though the teacher had repetitively told me to talk it through nicely to the kid, but sorry to say that, this household imposed on punishment as well.

I've ended up spending hours later on, explaining to the kid, why punishment was needed, why we need to own up after doing mistake, what will happen if we had let it go easy on those mistakes. Honestly, I myself, don't really like corporal punishment as I've suffered them myself during my younger days. But on the other hand, I have to agree that this type of punishment is important, too, as we may not be eloquent enough to make our kids to fully understand and comprehend what we are trying to convey to them. 

Most kids are like goldfish. Why? They are having goldfish memory. Myth wise, goldfish tend to be labeled as having 3 seconds memory. Fact wise, goldfish actually remembers much longer, months instead of seconds. So, be it, myth or fact, both suit the kids.

no matter what

Recently, there's a big-screen movie and a neflix movie that seems to caught lots of parental attention of the hidden messages of the show.

People start posting their views and what key points that we should take away from the show. 

A parent(s) love and right guidance is very important to a child. 

Being presence to them means more than anything, unless we have been interpreting "presence" to them in the wrong way. 

Setting boundary for them doesn't mean stopping them for exploring, but to explore responsibly.

Home should be the safest place to be, but, we all should still stay vigilant of the world wide web.

Letting your child(ren) knows that you love them is important, and it is important also for them to know how to continue to live lovingly without you.