caring

Heard this phrase on a tv series recently - if you care for others, others would eventually care for you.

I guess it's because we are not living alone. Whatever we do, we are not alone.

If you need food, you need to get it from others - restaurant, market, etc.

If you need clothes, you need to get it from others - boutique, shop, etc.

If you need accomodation, you need to get it from others - rental place, developer, etc.

If you are working, you need to deal with colleagues, clients, etc.

If you are studying, you need to deal with friends, teachers, etc.

If you are holidaying, you need to deal with strangers, co-travellers, etc.

But I would like to stress that, when you care for others, do not expect anything in return.

Caring supposed to be something that you give to others in your own accord.

If there's no reciprocate on your caring and you don't like it that way, then just stop it. Don't start to get fumed up by the inconsiderate of others and blame others for not returning your kindness or caring. Just go and find one that you appreciate your caring. Why make yourself and others suffer?

Of course, caring supposed to be something that is to give and take. When you receive caring from others, you are supposed to return the kindness. This is the right attitude.

But what about when you received caring/kindness from one that you would not like to?

Who's the one that's having attitude problem now?

history

What would you comment on the subject - History? Boring, lengthly, not interesting, sleepy, etc. I guess that would be what most people would linked to the subject. Of course, we cannot neglect those that truly loved history.

It is actually quite true that "we study history in order to learn the value from it and not to let the history to repeat itself (which is actually just to avoid bad mistakes to be repeated)." However, how many of us, truly understand and appreciate the subject of history.

Actually history can be interesting. It is just how you look upon it. If you can appreciate history, then you would appreciate the changes, the revolutions and understand why and how things are working right now.

compliment

When was the last time you had compliments from others?

And when was the last time you had compliment others?

It felt good to have compliments from others once a while, of course, provided it is a sincere compliment. Nonetheless, a small compliment can really liften up your mood and also self-confidence.

So, imagine, you can always pass on the good mood just by a small, sincere compliment and you can make his/her day better.

~ i'm yours ~

A song intro by J, which is also a great song. Song by Jason Mraz. Enjoy..

Well you dawned on me and you bet I felt it

I tried to be chill but you're so hot that I melted

I fell right through the cracks

and now I'm trying to get back

Before the cool done run out

I'll be giving it my bestest

Nothing's going to stop me but divine intervention

I reckon its again my turn to win some or learn some

I won't hesitate no more, no more

It cannot wait, I'm yours

Well open up your mind and see like me

Open up your plans and damn you're free

Look into your heart and you'll find love love love

Listen to the music of the moment people dance and sing, we're just one big family.

It's our God-forsaken right to be loved love loved love love

So I won't hesitate no more, no more

It cannot wait I'm sure

There's no need to complicate

Our time is short

This is our fate, I'm yours

Do you want to, come on, scootch over closer dear

And I will nibble your ear

I've been spending way too long checking my tongue in the mirror

And bending over backwards just to try to see it clearer

But my breath fogged up the glass

And so I drew a new face and I laughed

I guess what I'll be saying is there ain't no better reason

To rid yourself of vanity and just go with the seasons

It's what we aim to do

Our name is our virtue

I won't hesitate no more, no more

It cannot wait I'm sure

There's no need to complicate

Our time is short

This is our fate, I'm yours

Well open up your mind and see like me

Open up your plans and damn you're free

Look into your heart and you'll find that the sky is yours

so please don't please don't please don't.

There's no need to complicate'cause our time is short

This oh this oh this is our fate I'm yours

Oh I'm yours

I won't hesitate no more

Oh no more no more no more

It's our God-forsaken right to be loved, I'm sure

Theres no need to complicate

Our time is short

This is our fate, I'm yours

No I won't hesitate no more, no more

This cannot wait I'm sure

There's no need to complicate

Our time is short

This is our fate, I'm yours, I'm yours

*Lyrics from http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/jasonmraz/imyours.html

~ 差一点 @ cha yi dian ~

A meaningful song, especially when the song was played during the show "Addicted to Love - 都市戀人的追逐". A song by Ah-du.

差一点你就是我的女人
差一些手牵手的完整
却在对的时间错过对的人
抓不住幸福时分

遇上了错的人
渐渐的吻在她无心的嘴唇
感觉像一个旅程
走完了就分

错过了对的人
决定就只在那一秒那一分
爱情的岔口
你是我等不到的路人

差一点你就是我的女人
差一些就和你共度一生
因为对的时间对的人
就值得我为你奋不顾身

差一点你就是我的女人
差一些手牵手的完整
却在对的时间错过对的人
抓不住幸福时分

错过了对的人
决定就只在那一秒那一分
如果没缘分
我也会固执的为你一人

差一点你就是我的女人
差一些就和你共度一生
因为对的时间对的人
就值得我为你奋不顾身

差一点你就是我的女人
差一些手牵手的完整
却在对的时间错过对的人
抓不住幸福时分

(han yu ping yin)
cha yi dian ni jiu shi wo de nu ren
cha yi xie shou qian shou de wan zheng
que zai dui de shi jian cuo guo dui de ren
zhua bu zhu xing fu shi fen

yu shang le cuo de ren
jian jian de wen zai ta wu xin de zui chun
gan jue xiang yi ge lu cheng
zou wan le jiu fen

cuo guo le dui de ren
jue ding jiu shi zai na yi miao na yi fen
ai qing de cha kou
ni shi wo deng bu dao de lu ren

cha yi dian ni jiu shi wo de nu ren
cha yi xie jiu shi he ni gong du yi sheng
ying wei dui de shi jian dui de ren
jiu zhi de wo wei ni fen bu gu shen

cha yi dian ni jiu shi wo de nu ren
cha yi xie shou qian shou de wan zheng
que zai dui de shi jian cuo guo dui de ren
zhua bu zhu xing fu shi fen

cuo guo le dui de ren
jue ding jiu zhi zai na yi miao na yi fen
ru guo mei yuan fen
wo ye hui gu zhi de wei ni yi ren

cha yi dian ni jiu shi wo de nu ren
cha yi xie jiu shi he ni gong du yi sheng
ying wei dui de shi jian dui de ren
jiu zhi de wo wei ni fen bu gu shen

cha yi dian ni jiu shi wo de nu ren
cha yi xie shou qian shou de wan zheng
que zai dui de shi jian cuo guo dui de ren
zhua bu zhu xing fu shi fen

(English translation)
Just a little more, and you would be my woman
Just a little more, then there will be the completeness of holding hands
But at the right time I missed the right person
Unable to hold onto happiness

Met the wrong person
The gradual kiss stays on her heartless lips
It felt like a vacation
Once it was over, we would part

Passed over the right person
Decided at that minute, at that second
At love's fork in the road
You are the pedestrian that I won't be able to wait till

Just a little more, and you would be my woman
Just a little more, I would be able to spend the rest of my life with you
Because the right person at the right time
Is worth it to exert myself without any consideration

Just a little more, and you would be my woman
Just a little more, then there will be the completeness of holding hands
But at the right time I missed the right person
Unable to hold onto happiness

Passing over the right person
Decided at that minute, at that second
If there is no fate
I will still be stubbornly waiting for you

Just a little more, and you would be my woman
Just a little more, I would be able to spend the rest of my life with you
Because the right person at the right time
Is worth it to exert myself without any consideration

Just a little more, and you would be my woman
Just a little more, then there will be the completeness of holding hands
But at the right time I missed the right person
Unable to hold onto happiness

*Lyrics from http://chinesemusicblog.com

keep cool

It's not always so easy to keep cool, right?

And those people who always manage to keep their cool even during the most crucial moment, looked so suave.

It's true that every problem seems to have it's workaround, if not solution, if you just keep your cool to solve it and not being frantic about it. Though, it's always easier to say than to be done. But, come to think of it, Rome is not built in a day, so why not start practicising it today?

it does not feel right

How come it does not feel right when people keep on saying things that I feel were like insulting her. How come it does not feel right when people where challenging her authority, her status or her functionalities. Maybe I just couldn't accept the fact that she is not perfect. I just couldn't stand the criticsms being thrown at her. I couldn't fight back for her.

I guess many people are just like me. No one could stand the person or thing that they loved being criticized. Guess this is because we have feelings for them, we cared for them. This could be well describe by the phrase - love is blind.

If you just simply loved eating spicy stuff, no matter how other people tried knocking sense into you on the bad side of eating too much spicy food, you just couldn't hear them. It is because your love for it is so strong, you are just simply blinded by it.

I also noticed that, if others are arguing about the things that I do not have much interest in, I could look at their arguments much more objectively. So, I guess, this is what happened, it just popped up in my mind that I was fightly protectively on the subject about her, regardless of whether what was being mentioned is a fact or not.

From time to time, we just need to keep ourselves in check.

When we are simply get too emotional, which we might not be aware of, and people around us seems to be telling us something which we can't make sense of, maybe we should really a step back and have another view on the subject.

Nothing in the world is perfect. It is the imperfection, that is actually perfecting it to be perfect :)

month to be merry

It is December again. The month to be merry. 

Stepping into the month of December, I believed that it will remind people of Christmas, the month of presents, the month of sharing love and even the month of holiday. To some, December might be the month that sums up all for the current out going year, to reflect on your doings for the out-going year, as well as to make resolutions for the coming new year.

Of course, this are just the happy thoughts and I know, for some , there are some unhappy memories as well. But, life is short, don't get drown it your own unhappiness, jump out of it. It's time to make a change.