Couples

Out of sudden, a thought came across my mine - what have we learnt from our parents?
I believed everyone learnt different things, whether from the good way or the bad way. Some may not even know their parents, but I am sure they would have learn something looking at others' parents.

For me, I think, is about how a couple should be, having a life partner for the rest of your life.
Being a couple doesn't mean you have to stick with each other all the time, yet always have a special time allocated for he/she. Being a couple doesn't mean you have to be doing the same thing together, but always ready to share and ready to hear each other's experience.
Being a couple means you respect and trust what each other is doing, and not to be sceptical or suspicious. Being a couple means you forgive each other's mistake and though might not be forgetten, but you'll not put it in heart and make each other miserable. Being a couple means you share the good and bad, the joys and tears, but never the laments and regrets.
Of course, all these need to be worked together as a couple, and not one party only, else the relationship will still be broken anyhow.

Although I did not learn this through the good way, but still they have taught me, indirectly, how we should be maintaining our relationship as a couple. Though there is nothing much we can do to mend theirs, after all these years, but we can be their listening ears, and hopefully, that can ease their estranged ties a bit, as there ain't much 'ten years' to go.

Falling in love is easy, while maintaining love takes hard work. Always remember the love, and don't let it fade away, as it is love that brings us together, and it will be love that binds us together.

Counting down

Counting down four days, till the last day of my working day in GC. Time flies, especially for these last two weeks.
Coincidentally, lots of people are leaving around the same period of time, one by one, makes it more nostalgia.

Happy of leaving? Yes, indeed, I do not deny. Yet, I also cannot deny that there were many happy days as well and memories built for the past three to four years. There were also many good relationships built. Apart from that, of course, are those valuable lessons taught and learnt, advice given and received.
What would be the best memory? I couldn't pinpoint one, as there seem to be a few.
My first year in, I enjoyed my lunch hours and the birthday celebrations. My second year, I enjoyed teaching those downlines (though not all) and festival meals. My third year, I enjoyed going for k-sessions. My last year, I enjoyed my own farewells (together with the close ones whom are leaving with me).

Why do I need to leave then? Why not continue to stay on?
I guess, because of the negative vibes that have been building on, of all these years. And because I know it has reach my maximum limit and I am not able to handle any further, of the accumulated negativity, so, the only way out for me is to get myself out of it.

Should those left behind, continue to strive? Yes, of course.
There are many things to learn there, and there are many opportunities to grow, if you know how to grab the chance. Be always ready for opportunity that may come knocking at your door, anytime.
Well, though we are all aware that working place is not a teaching school, but still, we all yearn that we can be nurtured in the correct way. We are all trying to grow up and strive hard, in whatever stages we are. So, do show that there are great leaders to follow and environment to stay on.

learn by doing, not being taught

Came across a very interesting video just now. It is about how a lady taught her child by learning how to do, instead through verbal teaching.

It is true that in this generation era, we are being taught how things work, and how things should be done. But to truly understand the teaching, not sure how many of us do. And without these teaching, not sure how many of us would think of exploring the outside world in order to learn it up.
Unlike the previous era where things are limited, and in order to get something or to do something new, people tend to crack their heads and make full use of their imagination.
And maybe because the older era feel that they need to pass down the information learnt, so, they start to "teach" on what they know.
Maybe it is just the way of "teaching" that went wrong, that most of the new generation got used to "spoon-feeding" teaching. We think that we are letting information being passed down, but forget the ultimate reason what these information need to pass down.Letting the newer generation to learn is correct. But we forget to emphasize on the need to do the things they have learnt.

I think it is kinda similar to an old proverb - give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, and you feed him for  a lifetime.
So a person need to "fish" in order to get the fish.