Most would recalled surprised moments that happened to them, for some would be unbelievable moments, while some may be horrifying moments.
Well, mine was, the day I was told my kid lied.
The day went out as usual, things got busy towards midday, when a call came through. In the call, the teacher told me that my kid lied, then summarized what had happened. My heart literally missed a skip, and sunken down as I hear the teacher explaining.
I was still trying to hold onto some hope, hoping that there's still a grain of truth not being told, or a grievance yet to be unfolded. Yet, all hopes were gone, when I caught up with my kid.
What hurts the most, is that I realized the kid didn't trust me enough and had to resort lying to me. I can understand the fact that kids do lie, now and then. Well, who doesn't? Which kid is not afraid of punishments after being caught doing wrong things? I might have done that, too (hopefully I hadn't but age is catching up which I can't pinpoint mine now, if I ever had).
The kid felt betrayed, as all these while, if there's a mistake done, I forced the action of owning up, which will cause punishment. This really baffled me.
So, end of the day, punishment was still being carried out. Even though the teacher had repetitively told me to talk it through nicely to the kid, but sorry to say that, this household imposed on punishment as well.
I've ended up spending hours later on, explaining to the kid, why punishment was needed, why we need to own up after doing mistake, what will happen if we had let it go easy on those mistakes. Honestly, I myself, don't really like corporal punishment as I've suffered them myself during my younger days. But on the other hand, I have to agree that this type of punishment is important, too, as we may not be eloquent enough to make our kids to fully understand and comprehend what we are trying to convey to them.
Most kids are like goldfish. Why? They are having goldfish memory. Myth wise, goldfish tend to be labeled as having 3 seconds memory. Fact wise, goldfish actually remembers much longer, months instead of seconds. So, be it, myth or fact, both suit the kids.
