the day your heart missed a skip

Have you ever had the moment, that your heart had missed a skip?

Most would recalled surprised moments that happened to them, for some would be unbelievable moments, while some may be horrifying moments.

Well, mine was, the day I was told my kid lied.

The day went out as usual, things got busy towards midday, when a call came through. In the call, the teacher told me that my kid lied, then summarized what had happened. My heart literally missed a skip, and sunken down as I hear the teacher explaining. 

I was still trying to hold onto some hope, hoping that there's still a grain of truth not being told, or a grievance yet to be unfolded. Yet, all hopes were gone, when I caught up with my kid.

What hurts the most, is that I realized the kid didn't trust me enough and had to resort lying to me. I can understand the fact that kids do lie, now and then. Well, who doesn't? Which kid is not afraid of punishments after being caught doing wrong things? I might have done that, too (hopefully I hadn't but age is catching up which I can't pinpoint mine now, if I ever had).

The kid felt betrayed, as all these while, if there's a mistake done, I forced the action of owning up, which will cause punishment. This really baffled me. 

So, end of the day, punishment was still being carried out. Even though the teacher had repetitively told me to talk it through nicely to the kid, but sorry to say that, this household imposed on punishment as well.

I've ended up spending hours later on, explaining to the kid, why punishment was needed, why we need to own up after doing mistake, what will happen if we had let it go easy on those mistakes. Honestly, I myself, don't really like corporal punishment as I've suffered them myself during my younger days. But on the other hand, I have to agree that this type of punishment is important, too, as we may not be eloquent enough to make our kids to fully understand and comprehend what we are trying to convey to them. 

Most kids are like goldfish. Why? They are having goldfish memory. Myth wise, goldfish tend to be labeled as having 3 seconds memory. Fact wise, goldfish actually remembers much longer, months instead of seconds. So, be it, myth or fact, both suit the kids.

no matter what

Recently, there's a big-screen movie and a neflix movie that seems to caught lots of parental attention of the hidden messages of the show.

People start posting their views and what key points that we should take away from the show. 

A parent(s) love and right guidance is very important to a child. 

Being presence to them means more than anything, unless we have been interpreting "presence" to them in the wrong way. 

Setting boundary for them doesn't mean stopping them for exploring, but to explore responsibly.

Home should be the safest place to be, but, we all should still stay vigilant of the world wide web.

Letting your child(ren) knows that you love them is important, and it is important also for them to know how to continue to live lovingly without you.

goodbye 2024, hello 2025

Goodbye 2024.. Counting down for the last one hour.

It's like a common ritual, that by end of the year, all should look back and summarize what had happened, be it good or bad. Then what to look for in the brand new year.

But I think I've stop doing so for the last few years. So, am I starting it back again? Nay, of course I'm not.

Looking back at this year.. Opps, ain't that duplicity. Anyway, let's just do what the Romans do. 

Looking back at this year, days do pass by fast as if they are flying, yet they don't pass by easily. It's a year of new learning, new adaption to new schedule and dealing with new people.

I'm hoping that the coming new year, my pace will slow down, and let me digest on how to plan for my retirement. All the hypes are moving my attention away from the ultimate retirement plan. I'm still looking for my pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

May the brand new 2025, brings better days.

Welcome 2025!